DH and I were invited to a rare meal at the in-laws. We have a long back story, but have tried to make amends in recent years. Niece/nephews (7, 11 and 15) were being minded by them. We see them even less due to distance, so it was nice to catch up and chat. As soon as we sat down for the meal, MIL pulled out a tablet and started playing angry birds at the table.
DH asked her to turn it down. She barely did and continued playing. No, she isn't neurodiverse and doesn't need a distraction to concentrate. She wasn't following the conversations at all. I said in a half joking (not joking way) that it might not be a good example for the kids at the dining table to be playing games. MIL then pointed out that I crochet when watching TV! I reminded her that it was pre-covid when we last stayed at their house, and yes, I did crochet when sitting at the back of the lounge room late at night. This uses 1 hook, so no clacking together like knitting needles and not the noise of a game. MIL then said she could do what she liked in her own home. FIL said nothing the whole time. We finished the meal, thanked them and headed off.
Would you have said something? Would you think she was rude or me?