Any Polish opinions please

[MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy]

I have a polish friend who not so long also lost a close family member.
I was thinking of making a box frame with the family members photo in and some white feathers within it, with the text "a little bit of heaven lives in our home"

I have seen this in someone's house before and I thought it was beautiful.

I guess that I just wanted to check this would be okay and would be accepted well for a polish person. I wouldn't want to do this if it's something that would generally be rejected within polish culture. If anyone could advise please that would be great.

If so, a bonus would be if I could get the polish translation from someone please?

Thanks

Do you know that your friend believes in the feather/heaven thing?
It's a lovely thoughtful idea, but only if you know they'd like it, personally I would not like it.

I don't know about Polish culture, I'm afraid, but I would think it's quite an individual thing as well as a cultural one.

I'm British, and while I would appreciate the effort and the thoughtfulness of the gesture, I wouldn't want something like that in my house. Partly just a matter of personal taste and partly because I don't buy into the notion of heaven. So while the cultural angle is important, I don't think that's the only factor. Of course, if you know the person well and feel confident that it would chime with them, then crack on.

You sound like a very kind friend.

That sounds awful.

You sound so lovely and kind

From the Polish people I mix with, flowers and candles are more prominently symbols of rememberance, perhaps a bouquet with a candle and a card with some sincere sentiments might be more fitting

Thank you for the replies on this much appreciated, I think I'll go with the flowers and a nice little gift for her xxx

That sounds wise. This kind of thing, while well intentioned, is overstepping.

I've not heard of this modern idea of giving heavenly feathers.

Historically, in the UK, giving white feathers was a sign you believed a man to be a coward who was dodging his duty to join up and go fight for his country.

A lot of Polish people are Roman Catholics, hence lighting candles in memory of loved ones is usual.

No. The thought behind it is lovely but just no.

Yeah I think it's personal rather than about culture.

My ex was Polish but extremely unsentimental and not religious and would have cringed. His sister was the opposite and had a house full of 'Live, Laugh, Love' type stuff and religious symbolism so might have loved it. I don't think feathers are relevant though (I'd never heard of that as a British person tbh).

Overall I think you've made the right choice with the flowers instead. You sound like a lovely friend 😊

For more info - She is catholic, I was in church tonight and I saw this tiny ornament in a box (no bigger than the palm of my hand) and it says on the box "a little box of positivity" it's a miniature incense holder with the sticks which are smaller than match sticks.. I guess it wouldn't be lit really and it's more symbolic. I didn't go with the photo frame idea in the end. I have also ordered her a pamper set which includes a candle and bath bomb etc and some other bits and I will arrange to get this sent out to her. Thank you for the feedback everyone xx