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What should I do?

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SignificantSalamander · 29/11/2024 18:15

Just over a month ago I was referred by my GP to a consultant for suspected gynaecological cancer on the 2 week pathway. This was completely unexpected and shocking for me as I'm healthy and had so symptoms. In the end, the tests have shown that it's probably not cancer (5% chance) and they are just going to wait and scan again in 3 months. During this time I was convinced it was cancer and was incredibly anxious, couldn't eat or sleep etc. I also had my Mirena coil removed while seeing the gynaecologist.

Since I was told it's probably not cancer I have still really struggled. I'm severely limiting my food intake and have lost a stone since the initial referral. All I can think about is how weird I feel and how I should be eating and sleeping properly but can't. Additionally I think it's triggered grief from many years ago about my Father's death when I was a teenager as I was considering my almost teenage children dealing with my own death. A lot of the time I'm on the verge of tears.

I have booked an appointment with a counsellor for Monday and discussed this with a couple of friends but I still feel awful. Could it be related or exacerbated by the coil removal or am I just crackers? What do I do?

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SignificantSalamander · 29/11/2024 18:27

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saltysquid · 29/11/2024 18:43

Hugs OP. I have been through something similar and it is very traumatic having to face your mortality. I think it can lead to a continuous cycle of worry which is hard to snap out of.
Just be kind to yourself, try not to overthink, just live day to day and do things you enjoy. Over time the shock should fade and hopefully you will stop dwelling on it. It’s good you are seeing a councillor.

SignificantSalamander · 29/11/2024 20:24

Thank you. I've been shocked by all of this and I suppose it will take a while to improve. I sort of just want a quick fix 😥

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janeavrilavril · 01/12/2024 00:21

Firstly, cancer is not necessarily a death sentence. It is an awful thing to have come up and I can understand your spiral. But it is looking positive. It’s probably a crunch point for you now psychologically and will, if you are determined to handle it better, make you more resilient in the future, for yourself and for others who find themselves somewhere in that world. We will all die and there is no harm in being reminded of that and accepting it.

On the other aside, your coil removal could have effects on your mood. Gather yourself together. Right now you are perfectly fine, you have just become more aware.

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