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What do you call certainty based on personal experience?

17 replies

Retrophrenology · 28/11/2024 14:01

Is there a term for people who have utter conviction that if something worked a certain way for them/someone they know it’ll work that way for you?

To be clear I have no issue with people offering advice based on their experiences (that’s what sites like this are great for). It’s the people that are so confident that life can’t operate differently to how they’ve experienced it. If you’re not getting the same results it must be down to some flaw in the way you’re doing things. After all it worked for them…

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ByGentleFatball · 28/11/2024 14:02

It's a type of mindblindness

SilenceInside · 28/11/2024 14:03

Over confidence with a lack of empathy or lack of plenty of different life experiences? Essentially assuming that other people and their lives are the same as yours.

Kokomjolk · 28/11/2024 14:06

Kind of depends what it is, though? Some things will work essentially the same way for everyone (e.g. how to change an inner tube on a bike tyre) while some things obviously won't (e.g. how to settle a baby).

Helico · 28/11/2024 14:07

Complete lack of empathy.
“I did it therefore anyone can” accompanied by a lack of insight that others’ lives are not like theirs and the fact that - eg. they are disabled, have a different workload, have different priorities, have more commitments - are just excuses for being lazy.

pizzaHeart · 28/11/2024 14:08

Narrowmindness

Flustration · 28/11/2024 14:09

A fixed mindset?

Helico · 28/11/2024 14:09

Kokomjolk · 28/11/2024 14:06

Kind of depends what it is, though? Some things will work essentially the same way for everyone (e.g. how to change an inner tube on a bike tyre) while some things obviously won't (e.g. how to settle a baby).

Even with your example though some people have engineering brains that find changing an inner tube (with or without instructions) very easy and others very difficult.

Kokomjolk · 28/11/2024 14:12

Helico · 28/11/2024 14:09

Even with your example though some people have engineering brains that find changing an inner tube (with or without instructions) very easy and others very difficult.

Yes but the mechanics of it will be the same. It obviously won't be equally easy for everyone, true - it does require a certain level of strength and dexterity meaning not everyone could do it. But the steps are the same, meaning that if you're failing and should theoretically have the physical ability to do it, you probably are doing something wrong.

ObieJoyful · 28/11/2024 14:15

I don’t know, but you see it a lot in schools.

All of your friends are going into assembly, so there’s nothing to be afraid of- you can do it too.

Not always!

medianewbie · 28/11/2024 14:15

Plain old Arrogance ?
I have a friend who thinks 'everybody is a bit Autistic' & that it is 'a Superpower' His quirky (but undiagnosed) 7 Yr old Ds, at a private school, 'is a bit ASD'.
I have 2 kids, aged 20 & 17, who are both NHS dx ASD & through (& still in) UK state Uni/school: but he knows best

Another friend, who 'knows' that if my Ds 'did mindfulness' his health would improve. Ds has just had 2nd cardiac MRI as his heart failure symptoms not resolving. Friend knows better as he's 'para-medical' (used to input medical data, currently a p/t Xmas postie).

Mansplainers both: neither can/will comprehend different experiences.

MarkingBad · 28/11/2024 14:17

Strong conviction.

TidalRiver · 28/11/2024 14:20

A lack of theory of mind.

My MIL, although I am quite fond of her, is the classic example. She had a tough early life (eldest of 13 children, mother continually pregnant or miscarrying, parenting the younger ones, in a household that didn't value girls), and I think it wasn't an environment that was at all conducive to developing an imagination, or indeed any conception that other kinds of lives were possible.

She's in her early 80s now (but she was in her late 50s when I first knew her, and was always the same) and is never going to change. She gives everyone the same advice, all the time, regardless of their circumstances, and repeats it until they give the response she's looking for.

She will do exactly the same thing every time, and proclaim its effectiveness, even when the evidence is in front of her that it's not -- a tiny example, but with literally every baby she comes into contact with, including her own 14 grandchildren and great-grandchildren, she will click her fingers repeatedly an inch from the babies' eyes, and when they (almost inevitably) get irritated and cry, she looks annoys and says 'They love that, babies'.

She has a similar thing that she does with toddlers, where she takes a toy away from them and dangles it out of their reach, and when they cry, she says 'They love that'. It's as though she only has a certain set of entrenched ideas about behaviour and responses, and will cling to them no matter that the evidence of her own senses shows that it doesn't produce the desired effect!

Neeenaaw · 28/11/2024 14:25

A fucking know it all

thatsawhopperthatlemon · 28/11/2024 14:31

Anecdotal evidence.

They have seen it work that way, so to them (and despite other evidence to the contrary), it is proof that their way is the only way.

FuckItItsFine · 28/11/2024 14:32

Ignorance, arrogance, narrow-mindedness, lack of critical thinking, lack of empathy.

GirlfromIpanemagoestoGreenland · 28/11/2024 14:42

Closed-minded, maybe. I don’t think there is a word or term for this type of person or advice specifically. It would be useful if there was though.

tectonicplates · 28/11/2024 15:13

I know the word privilege is sometimes overused, but I do feel it fits in here.

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