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DD being bullied!

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SunnyGoose · 27/11/2024 16:51

My DD is 9 (summer born) and is in a mixed class of year 5 and 6. A new boy started about 7 weeks ago, but he has been bullying my daughter, he scowls at her, he shoulder barged her in the playground and pushed her when queuing to go back into the classroom.
The HT spoke to him today, he said it was a gentle push, but he’s taller and older than her and my DD said it wasn’t gentle because she moved forwards. When the HT followed up with a phone call, I felt she downplayed what he had been doing, but agreed to keep an eye on things.
When my daughter came out of school, she told me that he walked past her in the class today and nudged into her arm as he walked by, when she looked at him he smiled, which makes me think it was intentional, he didn’t apologise either.
I don’t know where to go from here, do I go back to the HT, or wait and see if anything happens again?
Thanks!

OP posts:
ChestnutGrove · 28/11/2024 21:09

Heartbreakanddamage · 28/11/2024 17:26

Sorry OP but you are being ridiculous comparing this situation between primary aged children and adults.

I don’t know if you have DC but if you do, I wish you well with running to the head every time another child throws a dirty look or scowls. It’s your job as parents to teach your children some resilience and reading these posts I think the majority are not capable of that.

My youngest is 17. I never needed to keep running to the Head because my kids were not barged around and pushed by other kids luckily. I'm guessing your kids were the type to do that to other kids which is why you are trying to make out its fine and kids should just put up with being barged and pushed around. It is not normal for a 10 year old to do that and kids don't have to put up with it.

Heartbreakanddamage · 28/11/2024 21:50

ChestnutGrove · 28/11/2024 21:09

My youngest is 17. I never needed to keep running to the Head because my kids were not barged around and pushed by other kids luckily. I'm guessing your kids were the type to do that to other kids which is why you are trying to make out its fine and kids should just put up with being barged and pushed around. It is not normal for a 10 year old to do that and kids don't have to put up with it.

@ChestnutGrove
How date you suggest that my kids were bullies??? You know absolutely nothing about me whatsoever and if you’d actually bothered to read my previous posts, you’d have seen that my own DD had a bullying issue herself, a very serious one actually that resulted in her leaving her school. So keep your vile accusations to yourself 😡😡 and yes..even though I have experienced it first hand, these incideyare still NOT YET BULLYING!!!

I am not trying to make out it’s fine. I do however know what bullying looks like and what the OP has described would NOT be classed as bullying. If you seriously think a couple of contact incidents will be called bullying then you really are deluded. It’s parents like you who cause so much fuss about what is essentially two or three very small incidents that are are real problem for schools. Whilst everyone is running around trying to calm hysterical helicopter parents like you, there are some actual really deserving issues that don’t get the attention they deserve. Are you still bathing your 17 year old and helping him cross the road?

YearningForAWinteryWinter · 29/11/2024 09:07

I am really far from a helicopter parent and my dc are very resilient but if this was happening to my Dd, I would be meeting the head and insisting this is dealt with.
It's important that young dc know their parents have their back.
I've taught my dc how to deal with certain behaviour and I've taught them never to hit or make physical contact first but they have my permission to defend themselves and hit back and I'll deal with any teachers.
If there's behaviour that's making my dc feel uncomfortable and worried about going to school, I'd be dealing with it.

MsNeis · 29/11/2024 09:14

User37482 · 27/11/2024 19:04

I’m going to be honest. This kind of interpretation is why our schools have behavioural issues. To walk into the same girl three times seem a bit unlikely doesn’t it. The system is set up to not stigmatise aggressors.

It’s gaslighting to say she’s not being bullied, this is what the start looks like.

OP check the school policy and escalate accordingly. Don’t let it go.

Thank you, I was thinking the same.

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