I am a half sibling born between two full siblings.

[User4638373836333]

Let me explain. Never knew my bio dad until adulthood. The story I was told was that bio dad was married, had a child, separated with wife, divorced, met my mum, got pregnant with me, then had a one night thing with his ex wife and got her pregnant but naturally people would assume that I am an affair child. My mum was adamant that this wasn’t the case and he had fully left his wife before meeting her.

I’ve recently found out that this might not be true and that he was still married when he met my mum, he left his wife for her, divorced and was set to marry my mum and then he got ex wife pregnant. There’s not much age difference between myself and half sister - literally just a few weeks with me being older. They didn’t stay together either. He met and married someone else and stayed with her and had more kids.

I just feel like that I am a child born from an affair.

I know my half siblings have done for years even before I knew bio dad and they were naturally close and I was just an extra. they had contact, I did not.

anyone else experienced this and how do you process it as in my 30 odd years of life I have not been able to.

One of my oldest friends is the second of about five kids her dad had. It came to light that two half siblings were born within weeks/low months of each other. There are numerous half siblings on both her parents part and they all are just family to each other. I'm sorry you feel like a dirty little secret. You're not.

I'm the eldest of my father's three and he had the other two after marrying. I've felt like the bad one and have never had contact with my parents and just a brief interaction with my sibling. They stopped it as her mother didn't like it.

Family is family. Friends are friends. People are all blood and emotions. Why we can't just accept it boggles me. We all need people.