Therapist not the same the second time around

[Fightingitoff]

I went to a brilliant therapist for several years and stopped in 2020 just because of run out of things to say. She was amazing and I always felt like she was on my side. She really helped me in so many ways.

Last year some other stuff had been happening in my life so I went back to her, and it just didn’t feel the same. She did remember me and everything, but I somehow felt like we were getting a bit annoyed with each other. I felt like she was getting tired of me and I began to feel a lack of motivation to speak to her, so I ended it again.

I know people change and move on, but it was like she was quite a different person and didn’t really seem to get me any more, although it was for a different matter.

I don’t want to find another therapist or anything. I don’t even know what I want to get out of this post. I just wanted to write it down.

Yeah, people change. I think COVID changed things for a lot of people. Maybe she's having a hard time in her life. Or maybe she's sick of her job. Or ill. Or going through the perimenopause. Or getting divorced. Who knows? 🤷

It possible you reached a plateau - you may need a new therapist.

You can find you need different therapists at different times in your life.

That said, with any feeling you have in therapy it’s always worth asking yourself if it’s familiar - might it remind you of a way you’ve felt in the past, as sometimes what’s happening is not so much about the therapist.