My ex and I broke up when dd was born 8 years ago. He is very unstable emotionally, and gets very angry. He is also very controlling.
I moved 30 miles away from him recently, and this has not gone down well. Since we moved, he has started having baths with dd when she stays at his house. He has never bathed or showered with her before. She is a very young 8, and still needs help with washing her hair etc, so he has done that.
This makes me so uneasy. Am I over-reacting? I would be mortified if I got this wrong, but she has (naturally, not suddenly) become more private about herself over the past 6 months. She doesn’t want me to see her get dressed and undressed for example, but is happy for me to help her while she is bathing, so I don’t feel like she would be comfortable having him in the bath with her. She isn’t showing any sexualised behaviour or using any sexualised language.
What do I do?