"Bullying" in my sons class

[mayhayway42]

Not really sure what I'm looking for here. My son is 8 and is in a nice school and has always had a nice class mates. Mainly all been together since reception

During the summer break two of the girls jn his class fell out (something happened at a holiday club, no idea what). Well now they can't make it up and have pretty much split the class, you are on Mary's side or Jane's

This is causing a lot of problems in the class, the teachers are trying to deal with it but the issue is the parents. Both claim their daughter is being bullied by the other girl.

The teacher has suggested one of the girls move to the other class (two class intake), however neither parent will agree to this as both think their daughter is the wronged party and should be punished by being moved.

Just so sick of it now, as far as I can see no actual bullying is taking place but both just want to win.

Has anyone dealt with something similar. It's really having a knock on effect on the rest of the class

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The teachers should not give the parents or girls any choice. If they can't make up then one of them will have to move class. Whoever gets the short straw moves. Sounds like the parents and girls are loving the drama.

This sounds very unpleasant. I do notice
it’s really common for girls around this age to have quite ferocious arguments, and previously solid friendships to fail spectacularly. And I’ve seen some girls attempt to form a gang of supporters.

it does sound like the mums’ intervention is aggravating this situation massively.

I would encourage your ds to ignore and not get involved in the arguments. Tell him to say “this argument is boring.” If every child just walked away when the arguments or bitchiness started, it would run out of steam.

It is a shame for your ds, but it’s not a bad lesson in learning resilience

The teacher offered to put names in a hat to see who moves but that didn't do down well

Honestly both parents are lovely people but both think their daughter is the victim of bullying. I could be wrong but both seem as bad as each other.

That's a good idea. Very much feels like two tribes are forming.

If it's impacting on day to day life in the classroom for the majority of children, then the school staff need to intervene as it's not fair.
If it's just a bit of silliness in the playground, then the children need to learn to not get involved. If they want to play with Mary or Mary's friends one day, then Jane and her friends the next then of course that is fine and any problems stemming from this need to be addressed by the teacher.