Will 4yo & 2yo brothers ever stop pushing/hitting/being aggressive towards eachother?!

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One minute they’re besties kissing and cuddling, the next they are literally on top of each other wrestling and screaming.

They wind each other up so much and I don’t think we can go a full minute without them going for one another.

One of them occasionally gets genuinely hurt from the pushing/kicking/scratching. It’s driving me absolutely insane.

The 4 year old is the most problematic and doesn’t realise how heavy handed he is being.

Are there any techniques to tackle this?

I've got twins and sometimes it's like a WWE take down around here. I've tried lots of things - separating them, kind hands, don't hit, naughty corners (well rooms 😂) - distraction seems to work best but its finding something that will stop them going at it like a couple of feral cats - one had to go to hospital recently (not a sibling on sibling injury!) and threatening to take them back there to see a doctor with a massive needle seems to have worked this weekend

I have 2 boys 21 months apart (now teenagers). Exactly as you describe age 4 and 2. What did work for me in the end is that I taught them to say "sorry " to each other if they did something wrong. Even if they didn't understand why they had to say sorry as they weren't sorry. The older one used to snatch toys, the younger one would bite him in the shoulder. The screaming, the tears... Then one day I was in the kitchen and heard them squabbling. "Off we go again..." I thought. Then one of them said "sorry ". The conflict was over. I still had to spend a lot of time sorting their squabbling until about age 12-14. I absolutely didn't allow any bullying. "When one child is crying and another one is laughing is not a game, it's bullying ". The bigger one used to bully the younger quite a bit. I made sure there were always consequences. They are now 16 and 14, each with a circle of their own friends but very close to each other. My friend had 2 boys, similar age. She gave up on trying to be a referee a long time ago. The younger one absolutely hates the older and the feeling is mutual I believe. What you are going through is very tough but it shall pass. Try to get them running around outside in all weathers would be my 2nd advice. I hope it helps

Mine are 3yrs apart and the eldest is 8. It shows no sign of letting up so far....

My two hated each other. They are adults now and best friends.

Don't worry they will probably go on to form a band like Oasis.

(Could be useful if you're into flower arranging?)

Can I plead with you not to use anyone like medics ambulance crew police etc as a threat to young children. Bad enough if the child has to go to hospital then add in the terror you have added to the situation of the big bad person .
I've been in too many situations in AE and it's horrible for the staff member and yes you'll be rightly judged .

My eldest two were like this at 4 and 2. Carried on for several years and tapered off eventually although I struggle to remember exactly when.

Now 16 and 14 and they get on very well, rarely even have a cross word and never anything physical, not for years now.

Mine are 12 and 9 and drive me nuts with the squabbles. Glad to see the other posters saying it winds down at some point! That is a relief.

Mine are 3 years apart but I would say as they've gotten older they have similar interests they get on a lot better but there is still competition and bickering and telling tales. Less physical wrestling though. Oldest is 11.

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Goodness what a fun sponge

I can assure you no children were traumatised by me telling them that if they didn't knock it off someone would end up in hospital being stitched back together with a big needle