I know someone who is seeing another man/says she's in love with him.. She has been with her DH for 15 years/married for 7/no children. She has told NO-ONE about it except me. I told her she needs to grow up, and it's a silly fling -because she is planning on leaving her DH and swanning off 300 miles away and moving in with this other man. (As soon as she has got all her ducks in a row.) Problem she and her DH own a house together, and have £30,000 in joint loans and credit, so the financial implications are going to make the split problematic.
She has known this other man since mid July - just 4 months, and whilst they chat a few times a week on WhatsApp, she has seen him/met up with him just THREE times. (5-7 hours each time!) And she is about to throw her marriage and security away for him.
I told her it will all crash in on her, as it's all 'exciting' and 'secret' at the moment, and no daily grind, and drudgery has set in yet - (and when real life sets in she will regret it.) But she's not listening and intends to leave. I believe she will regret it. (He is married, and has been for 10 years, with one son aged 4, and says he will leave his wife soon.) 🙄
She has begged me to tell no-one, not even my DH. So I haven't told him. (He knows her but doesn't see her often, maybe 3-5 times a year. I see her 10-12 times a year.) I wouldn't tell my DH anyway. I love him to bits but he loves a bit of gossip, and wouldn't be able to keep his mouth shut. He would definitely tell someone!