Mum guilt over DS sleepover

[Robinnnnh]

DS just turned 3 , is staying at his nannas house. He loves her and love spending time with her we’re lucky she wants to be so involved

he has a baby brother (11mo) who isn’t staying as he is still quite attached to me! So it’s DS alone with MIL and her partner

i just have weird mum guilt over him going? I feel like a lazy mum who’s palmed him off. But he’s with people he loves and who love him I should t feel bad should I???

Good for you. It does DC good to have sleepovers with GPS or even friends. Next time let her have both and have a real night off. I left my DC with GPs when they were very young and they always enjoyed it. When they were older they used to do sleepovers with friends for a weekend and then we would have all the children another time. Bring them up to be independent.

What's the issue? He's happy, cared for and having fun, nana is presumably happy too, you get a bit of a break, and your baby gets your sole attention.

Visualise yourself pushing the guilt overboard, it's no use to you. Enjoy it.

Sorry I just feel lazy and I have guilt anyway because our youngest has been a bit fussy / full on since birth and that’s fine some babies need extra attention! He would never really be put down and still cries if I leave a room haha

so I’ve had guilt anyway that he’s had to share me since just after his 2nd birthday and I always miss him whenever he’s stayed out (he has in the past sparingly , pre DS2) and I miss him now but I know MiL will be happy she’s been asking for ages