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how can i get rid of this

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Siccc · 23/11/2024 17:05

The father of my child is literally a slug. he doesn't work he lives in my house, just spends money on things for him, unnecessary things. and there's me here on maternity leave. with a baby. i had quite a bit of savings, cause during my pregnancy i've worked 5 days a week until i was 39w, what made me save some money for emergency's or for things if the baby needs it. i found myself with no savings left now and struggling to cope with it, because he doesn't contribute for NOTHING, i pay for every single bill, all the food for us and the baby, rent, council tax. everything u can imagine. all on me. i'm sitting here crying from so much anger i have. i've argued so many times about this and not only he uses my money but he doesn't even want to work " doesn't want to be a slave to someone else" so he thinks working is out of question, he comes out with this fucking shit from the internet saying if he goes to work it's not fair cause he will be a slave working 5 days a week and he wants to be with his family ( that one makes me laugh all the time) . Im really sick of this, and when i tell you this, even looking at his face gives me nausea. this man destroyed my life and im here taking care of everything alone. struggling with bills alone cause he doesn't care, doesn't even know what i need to pay. He doesn't seem to be a fucking man. he really tricked me all this years, everything was okayish but now this is my limit. Going back to work soon, and again i will be the man of the house as i always have been. i don't take care of myself, before him i used to just have some love for me and pamper myself, now i can't even have a shower everyday in peace im not the same person i was 5 years ago cause even for that sometimes he still complains about staying with the baby. i'm only mid 20s and my life is ruined because of this person. i tried to get rid of him but he is just so stuck, he doesn't have no where to go, so he won't leave me alone. i'm going insane completely!! i ran out of ideas i don't know what can i possible do. i feel disgusted by him. many of you gonna say its my fault, and i will agree cause it is. but now that doesn't even matter, im still in this position, going crazy.

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SmalllChange · 23/11/2024 17:07

Is the house in your name only?

If so, tell him to leave.

If he has nowhere to go, make it clear that's not your problem and if he wasn't a lazy dick head, he'd have enough money to rent somewhere.

Guavafish1 · 23/11/2024 17:08

Is it your house?

if so… then put his stuff in a bin bag and change the lock. I would call the police if he cause you problems

Ladyof2024 · 23/11/2024 17:40

He does not have any legal right to force you to live with him. If the tendency is in your name you have a legal right to tell him to leave that is really all you need to know getting out of your life as soon as you possibly can like tomorrow

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