Hi Moms,
I take care of my 1y and 3y old girls, barely alone, in the mornings and evening (including childcare drop off and pick up). To note, they are not easy kids, cry a lot for 'no reason', scream, etc.
I always pick up them at 5PM and bring them home. My 1y old is extremely tired most of the times, so she'll cry on and off for hours. Usually, their dad arrives home from work at 7PM.
Whenever I complain to my partner (their dad) that I am mentally exhausted from all the crying, he can't take it.
For example, yesterday I complained that she had been crying all the time since pick up.
Later I was getting them both ready for bed and requested him to brush our 1y old teeth, while I was taking care of the other girl. I had to ask him a second time because he was doing other things instead. He got irritated and grabbed the baby by her arm, dragging her. Then yelled at me because I should have waited instead of asking again.
I confronted him that he should not grab a little child like that, he said that it was my fault because I am always complaining about them.
Do you think his reaction is normal at all?
Thanks