Tips please!

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I have quite a strong willed toddler. Always have but he’s older now (3 next month) so the reasoning is there and he knows he’s testing boundaries if that makes sense?

So refuses to get dressed with ease😂 brush teeth bath times etc. usually a bit of a bribe with these e.g. if you get your bath you can watch some spiderman after it with a cup of milk (bath time usually is before bed time for us) to get him in bath

But then there’s also the side of, throwing toys. We ask him to stop - he does it with a smile. Snatching toys from his little brother, smiles when we explain its little brothers turn to play with that toy etc. tantrum if I try to remove from him
In these occasions I say like “oh if you’re throwing that toy a lot you musnt want it! I’ll put it in the bin” (I never do but he stops throwing it)

I just seen a tik tok saying punishments make kids hide mistakes from you, not open up not trust you etc

and now my guilt is set in. I need to Instill boundaries. He can’t run riot and not have any discipline but I don’t want to make him not trust me or hide things??? Am I doing wrong?

Any toddler parenting tips welcome I want to shape him (and his brother when it’s his turn at toddlerhood haha!) into the best boys and men they can be and have amazing relationships with them.

Good luck, just keep being consistent in what you do. And show lots of love and praise when he gets it right. And do set boundaries. If you don't he won't be the best he can be, he will be a royal pain in the arse and miss out on life chances.

…and don’t threaten things you’re not prepared to carry out. That is sowing the seeds of real trouble once he realises that he can get away with stuff because the threatened consequences don’t happen. So “if you don’t want that, I’ll take it away from you for a week” is ok, but then actually do that if he doesn’t stop throwing it. Saying “I’ll throw it away” when you have no intention of doing so makes your threats empty of meaning, dishonest even, and even a very young child figures that out pretty quickly.

Wow this is handy and makes complete sense I’m not sure why I didn’t think of this! Thank you as he does need to know like he can’t throw toys but alongside me not wanting him to dislike me/distrust me but trying to set firm boundaries , I also don’t want him running amock thinking he can do whatever he wants wherever