Ideas to get a guest involved in Christmas "fun"

[CandlesandClemantines]

We have a very sweet guest coming whose ultra sensitive, lives alone and is hyper sensitive on their needs and why they are the way the are (brilliant BTW)
I think because they live alone they don't have that interaction with someone helping to move on from things.
They are wonderful company and we are low on family and I do love hosting them but I wish they would do a tenny bit more interaction with Xmas games.

For the dc so it's not adult talking.

He doesn't like anything that seems to test his intellect.
Murder mystery? Anything like that anyone can recommend?

Oh god, please dont force him to participate in games.

<screams>

For some people, participating in that sort of game is the very stuff of nightmares.

How old are your dc?

Exactly this. Or if you must, warn him, so he can choose not to come

Enforced fun. What's not to love.

I feel shy with a lot of people I don't know well and the worst thing is people trying to jolly me along or make me play games. Shudder.

Can he ask the questions/referee?

Just leave him be. He is probably more comfortable just chilling with a drink and watching the fun.

I cannot think of anything more unbearable than being "encouraged" to participate in your idea of fun interaction.

Don't invite him, poor guy

As a games despiser please done force participation- I am happy to watch others play, I'd rather shoot myself than join in...

Well, the thing is otherwise it's him talking all day and night however it's much better to get the dc talking and something more spontaneous happening.

Don't you think it swings both ways? He's with a family so he can join in for a short while?

Just let him be. If he wanted to play games or participate in other 'fun' activities, he would.

I am extremely sociable and enjoy all sorts of nonsense, but organised fun strikes terror into my heart. Christmas games should only be participated in by those who want to. Please let the man be.

Pass the Pigs is incredibly straightforward and he can just roll whilst everyone else does the talking / scoring bit.

My 96 year old Grandma who is deaf as a post usually has a good attempt!

Yes but it's only us and him. Isn't it awkward to have him sat there whilst we are playing?

No - I don’t think a guest should be made to feel uncomfortable and forced into activities they are not keen on.

so he really doesn't fit into your idea of "a fun time"

Better off with just your DC then?

Oh so he's that sort of character...itwill be hard but I think you will just have to put up with the talking. How long is he visiting for?

Would he enjoy helping your dc to understand or complete a newly-received present? Following a thread here, I’m going to buy Magnatiles. Something like that might engage him.

I love a good game of rummy. Card games are fun and low stress.

@menopausalmare he hates card games.

Would he participate in building something in lego or meccano. My husband is not a loud, roll around on the floor kind of grandad but he's absolutely brilliant at engaging the 2 1/2 year old grandson in building things. They can sit for ages in companionable construction ( and adding plastic people and knocking them down)

What about a huge jigsaw - he can join in as and when if he wants to.

No ! Let him sit and watch.
I'd decline the invite if I had to join in games.

I was hoping for something with more scope for jollyness.

He doesn't like jigsaws.

I was hoping someone may know more about these murder mystery things. One year I had some strange crackers which gave us all a secret Misson I don't remember anyone else's except mine which was winking and dd mission was to be really annoying 🤣 I kept thinking why are you keeping on repeating that.

He was able to cope with that and he the cracker told us too he went along with it.

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