Im going to my in laws on my own as my husband is working Christmas Day. I don’t mind as I get on with his mom and dad really well. The only issue this year is the addition of my grandson. I say issue but he is not the issue. It’s his first Christmas so I know he won’t remember it but we will. The issue is his mom. Me and my husband look after my grandson full time as his mom isn’t able to for various reasons. Needless to say she’s not safe for him to be around her unsupervised. Everyone knows this. She kicked off a couple of weeks ago saying we’re keeping him from her (we’re not) and complaining that no one trusts her on her own with him (we’re don’t and for good reason). She’s never got any money so is always asking people to borrow some. She’s said she’s getting him a load of stuff and was pissed when we said we’re getting him a little ride on trike with parent handle for him for Christmas and it will only be used by us and unless we are out with him it will stay at our house. We all know she hasn’t got him anything and probably won’t. This isn’t an issue this year as he’s not old enough to be disappointed but it probably will be as he gets older. My friend did ask what I’m doing Christmas because she’s on her own and after asking my in-laws she’s also coming to dinner and then stay at our house after. Like me, she has no filter and will tell my SD straight when she’s in the wrong. She knows Christmas isn’t the time to do it but I’m still worried SD will kick off and ruin his first Christmas