Do you care what people think of you

[theslippysausage]

Or are you very confident in yourself that it's something you genuinely don't worry about?

Yes, I do if I respect them. If they are idiots or not nice people then I try very hard not to care what they think. It's a battle, though! It's hard to be self-confident if it doesn't come naturally. I have to keep reminding myself that these people's opinions of me don't matter.

The thing is that you really can't dictate what people think, so you might as well do your own thing, and be yourself, and if someone doesn't like you, then it's their loss!

Depends who the people are. I care what my family, friends and colleagues think.

No

But now and again yes

Not since I was about 40.

I think that's the best answer ever !!!

No I don’t. I was bullied at school and desperately wanted to be liked, then in my 20s it clicked what a futile waste of time that was trying to be someone I’m not. Being true to myself is more important than being liked. I’ve now found my people and have some great like-minded friends but I’m fine with not being everyone’s cup of tea

Nope, this is me and that’s that, I try to be mindful of peoples feelings but sometimes I just can’t let stuff slide. I’m a pretty reasonable person, anyone that knows me will tell you that, I’m probably the most reasonable one in the house. I’m pretty laid back but if someone crosses me….
im a big girl, I always have been due to medication I take for a lifelong medical problem, I manage to maintain my weight between 16/17 stone, i don’t wear makeup, I don’t wear flattering ladies clothes, in fact I find men’s clothes way more comfortable, i just don’t care what people think, if they have a problem with how I look, it’s thier problem not mine because quite frankly i couldn’t give one.

If you don't like them then why let their opinion affect you?

If it's a work situation then you should still try to step back and find a way through - easier said than done sometimes I know!

No. I think we’re all so busy thinking about our own stuff, that no one’s got time to care what I’m wearing/doing etc.

Also you can’t please everyone, so the one you please may aswell be yourself.

luckily, I’m naturally empathetic so my decisions and their outcomes aren’t negative for those around me.

my SIL says she has never met someone so comfortable in their own skin. I think that’s a fair summary.

If its gamilt and friends yes.
But with other people, it's not about confidence, just not caring what their opinions are. 99% of the time, I'm never going to see those people again, so why does it matter what they think?

I’m aware of my own faults, and my strengths.
Happy enough, so that’s what they’re getting!

Yes, too much and wish it didn't bother me the way it does.

Not really. I'm comfortable enough in my own skin and confident enough in who I am and what my values are to not worry if someone doesn't like me.

Obviously if someone I admired and respected thought I was a knob I'd be concerned and searching my brain to see if that was genuinely how I was coming across to them - but on the whole I'm good with it.

People will think what they like - and their opinions are often erroneous. Just because they 'think' something doesn't make it necessarily true. I know who I am.

Only if they have power to make my life difficult - deny opportunities, ostracise, cut off income, etc.

Well, I care what my family and close friends think. I'd never want to accidentally upset anyone, or anything like that. But the wider population? Nope. I am who I am, I'm not going to change or adapt my personality to suit other people. It would be nice if everyone liked each other! But they don't; I don't! So I'd assume there'll be people who won't like me. It's no skin off my nose. I'd prefer cordial and polite to outright poor behaviour though.

Only if I want to have sex with them, after that, they are welcome to their opinion 😆

In terms of caring what people think about you I learned very early on you cannot make people like you, they either will or they won't no point trying to fit in with people who don't like you.

I've always been confident in myself but I'm not a complete knob to people, or loud, or quirky. I have people telling me I need to be taken down a few pegs. Oddly enough usually by people who have little confidence in themselves. I just smile and nod because I couldn't give a toss what they think of me. I don't owe them an explanation or a discussion on the topic.

People throughout my life think I'm very shy, I'm not, I'm just quiet and polite face to face. I'm happy meeting new people starting conversations etc, doesn't bother me in the slightest, I start it and then listen to them. The few people who know me very well think calling me shy is hilarious

I don't tend to worry about things which are outside my control, and what people think of me falls neatly into that box.

So no, I don't care at all.

I wouldn’t say I’m completely confident in myself because they are many things that I’m insecure about. I just really don’t give a fuck what other people think or say.

I would mind if someone thought I was rude - I try to be polite and considerate. But I don't feel I need to agree with everyone, efface myself, put other peoples' wishes before my own, in order to be 'liked'.

Too much - and it has been my downfall.

After a lifetime of worrying about this, I would say that it's useful to at least be able to recognise, and not fret over, the times when others having a good opinion of you, or otherwise, does not make a material difference to their life or yours!

I have very low self esteem and self confidence so yes as a default I do worry about what people think of me. As a child I wasn't allowed an opinion/ a voice or if I did, I was scorned and shouted at. So I definitely am hyper aware of what I say to people and how I come across as I don't want to get them angry.

Yes.

When I started in my current job (3 years ago) I was desperate to fit in, mainly because I knew nobody and wanted to make friends. It was terrible and made me feel like I was 14 again and at school. This year I don't really care, and I tend to just keep to myself.

Nervous about going home this Christmas and what people (extended family mostly) will think/say after a breakup earlier this year.