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im feeling so frustrated of my lifestyle..

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Iceloolly · 19/11/2024 20:26

Basically i've got a baby almost 1yo. it's been so hard as i've got no family relatives close to me that could give me some physical or emotional support. the father of the child lives with me as i feel bad for him cause he hasn't got anywhere to go. but im just sick of this. he doesn't contribute with one penny for nothing. he just sits at home all day like a slob playing video games. i'm close to coming back to work, and my anxiety is on fire as he barely even helps with his own child, so how can i feel safe leaving my kid with his own father who never even changed a nappy? i know im the one in the wrong for keep accepting this but it's really getting to me i don't even love him no more. love him for what? not even just referring money wise, but no help, nothing. every single bill in this house is paid by me, this baby depends on me for everything, can't even go out alone for more than an hour as he already cries for me( im breastfeeding) plus paying for food, plus baby stuff, my brain is exploding from all of this.
but with work just round the corner i don't know how am i gonna coope. literally that's how sad my life is, im going to work to get the bills paid and make sure to give a normal life to my child, while the father just sits at home waiting for everything to be done for him, just like a bum. i know i should just get rid of him, but i've tried and is never successful and then i feel bad for him even tho he doesn't feel bad for me

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TimeForBedSaidZebadee · 19/11/2024 20:47

What's more important to you,
Your child and your own mental health or this man who you know is just using you.
I know it's hard, many, many years ago I was in your position. Get rid of him I promise it's the best thing you can do for yourself and your child.
Is the house yours?

CheeseyOnionPie · 19/11/2024 20:51

You said it, he’s a bum. Don’t waste your time on this man, you gave birth to one baby but you seem to have two.

Iceloolly · 19/11/2024 21:30

yes it's my house 😫 your both so right. i'm feeling so bad with myself not being what my baby needs me to be because im nervous every day. literally looks like i am this guys mum as well. it's not fair, i really need a fresh start

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Shinyandnew1 · 19/11/2024 21:34

How did it happen that he has moved into your house and just pays computer games without paying his bills!? Did he lose a job or did he never have one?

Hes a waste of space and needs to move out tomorrow! What’s your childcare plans-do you have a nursery place?

MessyNeate · 19/11/2024 21:35

Look for a Child minder,

Apply for UC

kick him out he is not your responsibility, he is a grown man. He needs to grow up and stand on his own two feet

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