Do you thank someone twice?

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In this scenario, say someone gives you a birthday or Christmas gift but you don’t open it in front of them at the time.

You thank them at the time of receiving but do you thank them again (maybe by call or text) when you have opened it and can see what it is?

I do and find it odd when others don’t.

Happy to be told I’m wrong!

Yes, I'd thank them again once I opened it.

No I wouldn't, one thanks is enough in my opinion.

Yes I would. I was always taught to mention the specific gift when I thanked someone (e.g. "thank you for the beautiful necklace, I love the colours") and you can't do that if you don't know what it is!

Absolutely, the first thanks as in 'thank you for giving me a gift and for the thought' second thanks to acknowledge I appreciated the thought of the specific gift (even if I don't like it 🫣) if that makes sense!

Yes, I would. Once when given, once after opening.

I always open gifts in front of the giver. Always seems rude to me to take a gift and put it to one side, as if I'm not interested. If the giver insisted I save it for "the day" I'd definitely thank them again as soon as I'd opened it.

Agreed - obviously there are exceptions, like when people bring presents on the day at weddings etc, but if somebody has put the time and effort into buying something for you, surely just taking it and then putting it to one side is a bit rude?

I always ask permission to open it though!

Yes I do

There’s no hard and fast rule. Some people would open the present in front of the giver if they weren’t going to see them on the day, so would thus only think once, but some givers would hate that. I think you need to respond to different people and scenarios.

Well next time I naturally speak or see them yes no I won't be sitting there writing thank you notes though

But you can't properly thank someone unless you've opened it.

Yes, I would thank the person again once I knew what the gift was.

Yep, definitely a double thanks and maybe again when I next see them in person, on a chronic over thanker!

I always thank once I have opened the present because I will want to comment on it/say how much I like it.

I don't do proper thank you letters these days - just a WhatsApp or text.

Exactly this!

You're thanking them for giving you a gift when you receive it (and don't know what it is) and then once you've opened it you're thanking them for whatever the gift is!

Yes! I knew I was right!

Thanks, I’ve had this happen a few times and I’ve always been a bit disappointed when I’ve not received a thank you when they’ve opened the gift (specifically I’ve gifted to a friends 2 x adult sons a new baby outfit and each time the gift has been taken but never a thanks received from the parents).

DH's whole family seem to operate on a policy of 'no thanks required, ever, along the lines of 'don't give only in expectation to be thanked'. Only give if you want to, no thanks required.

My side do the thank you for gift when received, proper thanks opening. Feel we are being a bit delightfully informal taking a picture and messaging thanks.

I know which I prefer. I am especially touched when I receive the 'proper' double thanks from friends and their offspring. It just makes my day

Thank you when given the gift if not opening it at the time (only if given in advance). Then when opened, 'thank you for the lovely xxxxx, it will go beautifully on my dressing table (or other appropriate statement)'.