Am I being really awful?

[thecatthepuptheduck]

I'm in a little bit of a dilemma and I would appreciate your thoughts please... I work full time as a TA so obviously have all the desirable holiday times off plus weekends/ evenings etc. great! I took on a part time job mainly to give a little bit of a boost to my pay ( I'm not paid during holiday times ) I've worked there in 2nd job for 3 years, my boss has been great, he's given me holidays that I've needed etc BUT I'm just getting tired of always rushing about doing two jobs, sometimes not getting a day off for 18dsys straight. I have spoken to my partner and he's very keen for me to quit as are my two children who end up getting picked up from school by my brother and then farmed about to the various clubs they do.

Anyway im rambling a bit but here goes... I've decided that I want to finish on the 18th dec that means I get a few days to myself before Christmas to do last bits and I also get to go to my work Xmas party after school on last day. Am I being very selfish leaving my boss in the lurch at the busiest time of year?

In the nicest way. In most jobs you're just a number. ( from someone who was a manager in a big supermarket) Hand in notice and wave goodbye. They'll soon replace you. Yes it's the week b4 Xmas but I'm sure someone will appreciate the overtime

Or maybe they could offer overtime to existing staff too, someone might really need those extra hours

I think I'll just go ahead and leave. I mean the reality is another employee could fire in a sick or another could leave for another opportunity and the chances of anyone caring the way im torturing myself is very slim. I'm already working a full time job and juggling my own little family and I'm just ready to hang my coat up. I know there are a few others that I work with would dive at a mon-Fri job like I've got because they dislike the late night/ weekends shifts. So I think the only solution is to leave. My boss doesn't really think about me when he's putting me in sat and sun shift two weekends in a row knowing I have family and another job and therefore getting no actual day off

I think giving extra notice is fine - 2 or 3 weeks.

Just go for it.

For all you know boss is the same mentality as you and many others like me.

Thinking gosh I need to give OP shifts, she can only do weekends, and around school hours, this is really tricky, I really don't want to upset her by cutting her hours but this is really hard to manage.

Hopefully so, I always worry about other people and forget that most people are only invested in their own interests

They can get a uni student in to cover Xmas

If you're going to quit I'd probably do it this month and give notice now. It'll give more time to put a job advert out. There are always people actively looking for work this time of year for Christmas.

Standard notice for supermarkets is 2 weeks if you’re not a supervisor or manager so 4.5 is especially generous. They have more than enough time to rejig rotas and cover you. Enjoy your Christmas with your family.

I don't know how many companies you've worked for, but think back to some of the jobs you've had in the past. I bet you can barely picture some of your colleagues, let alone remember some of their names (genuine work-gained friends aside, of course). These people feel important now, but compared to your family and your well-being, they are insignificant. You'll only regret not leaving now. They'll sort something out.

I think that sounds very fair

Honestly you have to put yourself and your family first. Many retailers take on extra staff this time of the year anyway. And giving them extra notice allows them to maybe employ more

tbh the only taking the piss bit is wanting to go to the works xmas party on your last day. Don't do that.

I felt terrible when l quit my shop job - small family business were super busy cos of pandemic but l had no choice. So to soften the blow, l offered to stay on the books and told them if theybwere ever sruck to give me a call. They never did but l felt better for offering.

@DogInATent just to be clear, the Xmas party is the party of my main job. I've missed it for the last 2 years because my other 2nd job employer always seems to have me in on the day that it falls, just by chance. So I don't think im being cheeky to want to enjoy my Xmas party with my fellow full time employees when that is my main job x

That's such a kind thing to offer. Unfortunately it'll be all or nothing for me because we dont offer zero hour contracts so that would be an option.

This is so true. I'm not as important as what I think I am lol

That was totally unclear from your posts so far. It read like you were wanting to go to the shop xmas do.

@DogInATent apologies if it was confusing from my post. I had said about going to my Xmas party AFTER school so I thought that made sense that I ment the school party and not 2nd job party

I'm still stressing about it all lol

Personally y I wouldn’t leave him in the lurch. Simply because you never know what’s around the corner and may need a job there again.

Either give notice now so they can get staff, or do it after Christmas

I'm going to tell him tomorrow night. That will give him 4.5 weeks. If he wants me to leave sooner then I will