Dp and I have a 1 year old together. I was happy having just one child as I’m getting older, but dp was really keen and excited to have one more. This made me broody and want another too as I could see how much it meant to him.
We have been clearing out the spare room ready for baby to go into his own bedroom, and had to sort through his baby bits. Dp said we should sell it all. This really took me aback as he was so keen to have another what would be the point selling it all to rebuy again. I queried this and he said it was just an idea but we’ll store it in the loft instead as I want another one day.
We had an argument as it was his insistence to have another which he now claims was my idea not his.
It’s really messed with my feelings and hormones as I said I was happy with one but he let my hormones continue in baby mode to then drop me and not discuss it if he’d changed his mind after constantly speaking about us being a family of 4.
I can’t look at him the same way due to how careless he seems to be about my feelings. If he said he changed his mind and wanted to stick with one I’d have been fine as that was my original plan anyway, but to make it known by wanting to sell the baby items is cruel in my eyes.
I know you may all think I’m over reacting but it’s really hard to come to grips with not having a baby you thought you’d have, I’m sure many of you have felt broody or longed for one more and couldn’t.
If you’ve been in this situation how did you handle it? Did your relationship suffer? Did you have another baby or stopped there? I don’t want to make a drama about it I just want acknowledgement he has been selfish and not thought of my feelings and that I’ll have to process the broodiness won’t be going anywhere now.
(I plan to advertise everything for sale as I don’t think it’s fair to have a baby the dad doesn’t want)