Do You Cry Easily?

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I’ve always been very soft hearted & have definitely cried more since becoming a Mum but my menopause years are proving to be the most emotional of all! There are happy tears as well as sad at least. Guess it’s healthy to let all your feelings out. I had a good cry just now, listening to the love letter being read out on Sunday Love Songs, then again when Michael Ball played “ Unchained Melody” which is DM’s favourite song. Just so sad about how her illness is progressing - she’s still here but in some ways I’m already mourning her 😢

Oh dear - anyone out there?

I can cry just by thinking of a sad scenario that isn't even happening so you are not alone and your Mum being ill is definitely licence to have a cry at Michael Ball songs.

I used to be a bit of a cryer.
I can't remember the last time I cried now. I think I'm emotionally numb from a really shit few years and I do feel like I have a heart of stone now. I do think it more healthy to cry and let your emotions you.

I had neurosurgery last year and it’s like the surgeon turned on a tap because I woke up from the anaesthetic crying and have barely stopped since. I think it was delayed shock and a kind of PTSD because I’d held it together since being diagnosed with a benign brain tumour but after the surgery I uncharacteristically fell apart.
In the last couple of weeks I’ve cried because my young adult dds didn’t get me a birthday card, because I was told by neurology that I’m at high of getting dementia in 10 years (ie mid 60s), and because dcat has been poorly and I thought we were going to lose him. There was a candle lit in the vets and a note saying to be quiet and respectful because someone was saying goodbye to their beloved pet and that set me off too because we lost ddog in the new year at that vet practice and going there does bring it back.
I cried at work about the neurology update about the dementia. The last time I cried at work was about a year ago after I’d been called into the manager’s office only a few months after the surgery and told I was making mistakes. I sobbed for about two hours.
And yeah, when my contract was terminated in my previous job the day after I told them I’d been diagnosed with a brain tumour. And after they took me back on reluctantly but then got rid of me anyway a few months later. I remember crying that entire day.
So yeah, I’m a cryer now, never used to be. But I have had a lot to deal with.

And I know what you mean about mourning someone who isn’t dead yet. My DM has dementia and we’ve lost her although although she’s still here.

I cry very easily at books and films. I am desperate to cry about things in my own life but can't.

I used to be a huge crier, but I started taking antidepressants a couple of years ago and I’ve pretty much stopped crying completely. It’s a very very weird feeling to go from one extreme to the other.

Almost never. I’m just not a crier. I definitely cried last year with stress and fear but for the most part I’m a very pragmatic person and try and quickly find solutions to obstacles. I’m way more likely to get fiery than tearful.

I cry super readily for both sad and happy and I'm very ok with it! If it makes you feel less alone OP when I was about 18 I cried watching a football match (I have no interest in football) because I suddenly felt so sad for the ball in that it just got kicked away from people all the time and no one really wanted to be close to it. (I'm a well-adjusted adult, I promise!) 🤣🤣

I cried today as my dc was practicing the songs for her nativity and her little voice sounded so sweet and innocent. I've dealt with a lot in life but it was becoming a mum that has left me with all my emotions very close to the surface.

And in all seriousness re: your current reason for sadness I wonder if reading about "ambiguous loss" would help. Your reaction is completely understandable and normal x

Never used to be a crier but since having my DS I'm way too easy to cry. It's bloody ridiculous 😂😭

No, never been much of a crier really.

I cried when my DGPs passed away over the past couple of years but nothing else besides’ When I do, I find it exhausting and I stay really blotchy so I’m glad it’s not a regular occurrence 😅

Yes. Incredibly easily even when I’m not sad and often when I’m angry. It’s so frustrating. I have what’s known as emotional lability because I have dyspraxia and autism.

I don’t cry. I can’t allow myself to cry because if I do I don’t think I will ever stop. Too, too much pain.

I can watch some amateur singer on Instagram and find myself moved to tears.

Always. My eyes water at any emotions, mine, other people’s, even if it’s on TV.

When I used to watch Eastenders, that sad, slower ending (when someone leaves the square or dies) used to make me sob my heart out. I remember saying through tears “FFS I didn’t even like Pat!”

I can’t be (suitably!) angry without crying which is shit as an adult.

I had to stop watching This is Us i couldn't cope. I cry so easily - but not about myself. I'm not a beautiful cryer my whole face puffs up so it's not good.

Yes and the older I'm getting the weaker my mental health is becoming. I'm far more fucked up at 40 than I was at 22.

I never was.

Until Peri meno hit me, now I cry all the bloody time!

Yes. I can't be angry without crying and then it kind of makes people think I am just highly strung rather than a sensible person with a justifiable reason for being angry.

I cry at funerals and when I'm reading a sad book or watching a sad film. Apart from those situations I can't remember the last time I cried. Years ago.

I used to cry lots.

My younger brother died just over 2 years ago at the age of 46 and I've not cried then or since, I feel like my heart has turned to stone.

Really I sometimes feel like I need a good cry but it never happens!

I'm the same. Sometimes I want to cry but I can't.

Exactly this!