Would you complain about this nurse? Even though it was nearly a year ago?

[TheOnlyWayisGerard]

Hi,

The reason I'm thinking about it now is because my baby currently has a fever and is a little off it, so it's reminded me.

My DS was admitted to hospital January 2024 with Sepsis/UTI. He was 18 days old on admission. We'd been sent to A+E via 111 and had to watch him go through a lumbar puncture and several attempts to put in a cannula.

Anyway, at the time DS did not like sleeping alone, as is usual for newborns. I coslept with him in the hospital bed, DP and I mainly slept in shifts if we were both there. We returned from a walk to the on-site cafe on about day two to find a leaflet about safe sleeping, so the staff obviously noticed we had been cosleeping, but no one said anything directly until another nurse came on shift in the afternoon.

This new nurse was more experienced than the others we had met, and said she'd been doing the job for many years, but her opinions bothered me. She told us that DS needed to learn to sleep in his own bed and that he was 'manipulating' us into bringing him into bed. 'Babies are crafty' was a phrase that sticks in my mind that she used. It upset me at the time, as I was obviously worried about my baby being ill. She didn't focus on it being unsafe, or not recommended, just that he needed to be in his own bed or he'd never sleep alone. And that he was crying on purpose to get what he wanted.

I didn't complain at the time, I had too much on my mind with DS being so unwell. I just sat there whilst she spoke at me. I was tired and scared. I wish I had. He's not my first, so I'm a little more seasoned than perhaps a vulnerable first time parent would be. DS sleep in his own room now btw.

I'm just a little worried that a paediatric nurse seems to know little about child development and the capabilities of very small babies.

Would you complain even after nearly a year? Or would you just leave it now?

@Westofeasttoday

can you read? I don't want sympathy off you, you're nothing to me. I mentioned my baby being ill because it reminded me of when he was ill back then, so the exchange in my OP came back to me. Obviously. I've also already accepted it was too long ago, within a couple of posts. Which you'd know if you'd read my responses, but you had to respond with at least a little venom rather than a measured response, as others have managed.

Are you okay? Seriously. Your response is a bit hysterical. I think you need to leave it there as you seem to be blowing this really out of proportion and getting very upset.

And yeah I can read as you seem concerned about this. It’s sorta a strange repsomse considering this is a written forum and not oral.

Im leaving it here as to not upset you further considering your responses. I stand by what I said.