My ds is 22. He was seeing a man for a while although ds is in UK and his boyfriend is in America. Ds seems to fall in love very quickly. He was seeing this recent guy for around 6 months lots if contact via phone/message/video etc and seeing each other every couple of months for around 2 weeks at a time. Ds was in America recently within boyfriend. He came back Thursday. Whilst there ds has told me his boyfriend seemed distant. When ds tried to kiss him . The boyfriend would just return a peak on the cheek. He said when ever he tried to be intermate In some way. he seemed off with him. And he was more touchy freely with his friends ( not on an intermate way) but ds said the chats and time they spend together was so lovely and felt special etc. Ds said he wanted to talk to his boyfriend about the intermate side of things and his boyfriend seeming a little distant. Then the day before ds was due to fly back his boyfriend ended the relationship. Ds is devastated.
Ds is constantly crying for the past few days . He's saying things like his clothes smells of him. Or the washing detergent on his clothes reminds him of him.
He says things like he's so hurt he can't take it anymore and why does this have to happen to him he says that twice in 6 months this has happend. He's basically had 1 relationship that lasted a year . Which ds ended. Then he's had 2 relationship that lasted 6 months. But they would often go weeks without seeing each other even though they are reasonably local.
Ds says he just wants a normal relationship. But he says most people in the gay community want open relationships or hook ups and ds does not want that.
I feel so bad for him. But I don't have the answers or really know what to say. I know its early and the feeling ds has is normal. But he gets deeply emotionally involved very quickly. He then gets very hurt.