If you’re really excited to receive gifts?

[YorkieTheRabbit]

If you get really excited about Christmas and birthday presents, do you also put effort in to giving as well?

I bet she is prompt giving gifts to friends. Sounds like she isn’t that close to her dad for some reason.

Maybe the 18 year old is needing a life lesson. Perhaps just one of the presents on her birthday with the rest to follow.

Might make her understand what it's like.

I used to think the adults in my family didn't care about gifts as much as I did. But then I realised they do. It's just they didn't show it outwardly like me. I was about 15.

Does his dd have children? She does sound very self centred and a tad immature, who shakes ands squeezes presents at 40?

I make a lot of effort over dds and dgc presnts. My parents didnt. Their only grandchildren ( my DDs) got £5 in a card and some random oddments that had obviously been given to my mother and recycled. Unless a box of violet scented soaps is usual for a nine year old?

I don't get excited giving or receiving gifts (I know lol bah humbug) but 9/10 it's not something I need or want (alcohol, I don't drink; chocolate, makes me sick; flowers, bad for environment; 'memory jar' (old coffee jar with a pen and some post-it notes - let's not even go there lol). I'd rather money was given to a charity or food bank.

Similarly when giving, most in my circle don't 'need' for anything so again would rather do a donation somewhere.

But maybe she knows he’s not bothered, or she’s spent years giving him things he’s not visibly remotely interested in, and has given up? My father has no hobbies or interests apart from one highly technical one that doesn’t lend itself to presents, is diabetic, so can’t be given chocolates, and has worn the same ‘uniform’ of identical jumpers, shirts and trousers for the last fifty years. He reads, but if you give him a book, he will literally open it and say ‘But I could have borrowed that from the library!’

I can’t comment on whether she’s prompt with her friends presents, I only know her closest friend but I certainly wouldn’t ask.

Yes she has children.
I know her mum has previously complained about the lack of effort so it’s not about her dad or indeed me.
She a bit thoughtless to her partner, but really expects a lot from him.

Is she generally self centred and selfish or mean?
Or just about gifts?