Just called 999, domestic violence at my neighbours

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Feel a bit wobbly, dont really know why.

I know its the right thing to do but I cant help wondering what will happen as it was her attacking him. I could see through the door glass, it was clearly her.

They have had some absolute humdingers over the last 12 months, including her chucking his stuff out into the street. She has a teenage DD, she must be terrified.

Dont know why I'm posting really.

You're adrenaline will be pumping which is why you're feeling wobbly. Look after yourself, you'll probably shattered when it wears off.
You did the right thing, well done.

My DIL called 999 last year on her neighbours

The police came really quickly but the wife (victim) wouldn't accuse her DH so they went away BUT at least they knew that the behaviour had been reported

But contacted my DIL and said if it happens again ring back immediately

I think you did exactly the right thing

I mean the police said contact them immediately if it happens again

You have absolutely done the right thing. Well done and thank you.

You've done the right thing. I hoped and hoped my neighbours would call (I didn't have the courage) they never did. If I heard any sounds of violence I know I absolutely would. I agree with a PP your wobbles are adrenaline. Take care.

Well done. You have done the right thing. You are very brave. So many people would have done nothing and ignored this abuse. You are a wonderful strong good person.

They're not supposed to do that. The law was changed so they can arrest someone despite lack of co-operation from the victim.

You did the right thing. Many years ago I was the victim of DV. Thankfully a neighbour called the police and I was ' lucky' to just get away with a fracture chin and bruises.
Police came removed him.
It made me stronger not to let him back ,probably embarrassment tbh too .
I was young with a toddler too. I'm thankful for whichever neighbour called. ( was a flat so no idea )

Well done, you did absolutely the right thing.

Agree with all the comments so far, you did the right thing, too many people lock their doors and pretend they don't see situations like this.

Maybe it's because it was the woman who was the aggressor you are feeling shaky, but violence against another person is totally wrong, be it male or female....so well done. x

I would have done the same - especially after watching my wife my abuser on Netflix recently - awful

Not necessarily. If victim flat out denies anything had happened police can't arrest unless obvious injury. That's diff to yes something happened but I don't want to support police action

You have definitely done the right thing!
Well done! And as someone who has been through domestic violence, thank you ❤️
If my neighbour hadn't phoned that last time when he battered me and strangled me in front of my dc's, I'd probably still be stuck with him. I'll forever be grateful ❤️

I've phoned the police before I grew up in a DV household and couldn't listen to the violence unfolding below us.

Thank you for doing this OP.

I know someone who was almost arrested for DV.
The gf rang the police on her bf because he was trying to leave her. She’d actually bashed her head against the wall to get an injury.

It turned out that he’d never touched her and she’d been abusing him for months. The neighbours had rang the police on multiple occasions and said so.

So although the phone calls must not have been taken seriously in the beginning, they were really useful in the end.

If the neighbours hadn’t reported it, then he would likely be in prison.

I believe they also recorded them too, which may be worth doing.

I don’t understand why my neighbours didn’t call the police on my dad when he was trying to kill my mum and we were screaming at him.
He’d destroyed the phone so my mum couldn’t call them herself and we were all under 10.

So thank you for doing this.
It’s better to be safe than sorry.

It happened to me. And as a victim.of DV I thank my neighbours for it. Although at the time I was embarssed and couldn't bare to be seen by them afterwards.

I am calmer now and have thought about it.

I was the victim of severe DV and it was only because I managed to call the police myself that he didnt finish what he started and strangle me.

Not one of my neighbours called. I couldnt leave anyone regardless of sex, age etc to suffer like that.

You did the right thing. Even if he stays with her this time round the fact that the police have gone round without him calling them himself might just mean the start of a little alarm bell going off in his head that things have gone too far and he needs to get out.

These abusers act behind closed doors because they think no one will know.

Just her knowing that she can be heard, may be enough to stop it happening in the future.

He will also hopefully know that he’ll be taken seriously too.

I think my worry is that he wont be taken seriously. I think often, regardless of the sex of the abuser, the help you get (or dont get) is dependant on who attends. And I am sure for men its worse, as all she will do is claim he started it and she was defending herself and they will more likely take his word for it.

I know what I saw, she was not defending herself, the other figure (assuming it was him but actually I suppose it could be the DD) was crouching, sort of bent over and she was upright and raining down blows. Its actually fucked me up a bit thinking it could be her DD because that is exactly what my mother did when she went off on one at me......quite upset now.

I am prepared to give evidence if necessary as to what I saw but as my DD is at the same school as her DD I am concious of possible issues for DD who already has struggles socially.