What's going on with me ?

[Boopadoop90]

I'm 51. With DH and twin DC 15. Usually v house proud. ATM I couldn't give a shit about the house. I do tidy etc just not to the level I have done. Takeaways at least 3 - 4 times a week. Want a glass of wine every night (trying v hard not to as aglsss can easily mean a bottle). Blasting out old skool every night. Bored if dh out and I'm at home. I'm ok for 1 night on own. I also go out with friends. Dc do own thing every night. I'm restless every evening. Been driving around old haunts reminiscing few times.

Mid life crisis ?

Think you're bored OP life does get monotonous for us all at times. could you join a walking group or a class of some kind it's a great way to meet people as well. You don't feel down in yourself so you ?

Sounds like you’re having a right old party there op 🥳🥳🤣🤣

You need a hobby the burns some energy and motivates you

Is this a roundabout way of expressing anxiety about your drinking?

It sounds like you’re bored/ fed up or some iteration of that- you could ride it out for a while or start phoning friends/ meeting up/ going for walks- just getting even outside more- a bit of gardening or something… god I’m bad at this!

Maybe time to take a gap year.

Are you feeling OK in yourself otherwise?

If so, I think you've realised there's more to life than being house proud and maybe gone the other way. Your DC are older now, so life is a bit more about you - have a think about things you'd be passionate about doing - friends around, watching a film or catch up on something DH moans about. Anything, hobby or exercise wise you've half wondering about doing - give it a go (I did that recently and surprised myself - I'm a 58 year old now enjoying clubbercise - crazy I know, but wanted to do it while I still can).

@ReadWithScepticism I don't think so. I'm not worried about the drinking, only the calories !
I'm bored just being at home on any given night. I somehow how feel I just want to break free but of what I don't know. I love DH and DC. They are all my world. Work is easy and good money. I'm even considering going to an all day club with club music on a Sunday ! I don't want to go to a proper night club though, ever again.
Currently having it large around my kitchen with old skool playing ! Then I'm off to an exercise class then maybe wine

... with a takeaway !

I get this. I’m so bored. Mind you every day so far this week I’ve worked at home and not seen anyone.
what old skool music are you listening to!

@everything 90s .. insomnia, cafe del Mar, strike, tori Amos, daft punk. A set I recorded from a music channel

I wfh every day. We no longer have an office. I miss people but at the same time I hates the commute and I can do other bits in the day at home in-between breaks

Peri/meno mid life crisis. And a little bit of empty nest syndrome as your babies are growing up and aren't completely dependent on mum anymore.

You're regressing back to simpler, more carefree times.

@Boopadoop90 "I'm even considering going to an all day club with club music on a Sunday"

go! Yours is the main demographic for this round these parts. You're bored and looking for fun in a good way.

Part boredom, part natural reflection on your age/stage of life. The parent of dependent children phase is nearly past and your subconscious is telling you it's time to decide who you want to be in this next phase.

Sometimes it can feel like your youth has been lost or that you have to justify why you are where you are, but the trick is to find something that makes you feel fulfilled and alive. Whether it's volunteering in a soup kitchen, taking up a sport, learning a new language/skill - it has to be about making you feel good and interesting to yourself.

Am similar. Its menopause. Suddenly you want to live for yourself. I dont do wine but am out almost every night Am v restless and have joined about 500 hobby groups.

Restless that’s it! I am Peru menopausal and my kids are teenagers now. I miss them being little.

Me too. We have an empty nest now and i dont know what to do about it.

Why dont you just break free, OP? And find a world away from your DH and DC? DC will soon leave. Go to the all day club and then repeat every month.

@Lentilweaver

that’s a bit drastic

she said she’s bored not that she wants to upend her life!

No, I probably didn't phrase that very well. I meant, she should go out, go clubbing, do stuff on her own. Not divorce her DH and leave her kids!

Travel! Honestly if you need some excitement, why not book a weekend away. Marrakech, Lisbon, anywhere.