Sometimes ago I posted on here quite alot when I was having problems from my teen ds. This included domestic violence from him. (Comfirmed by social services) ds had mental health issues. Tried to take his own life etc. With help and support from CAMHS he has got much better.
Dd was effected by this situation. I tried to find counselling /therapy for her through charity's type things for siblings effected by DV but I could not find anything even though professionals involved at the time.
Dd is on the waiting list for CAMHS , she has the details for kooth and she emails the samaritans. She had counselling at school after I contacted the school explained the situation about ds . And how there seems little support in the way of counselling for dd. So they put that in place . After a while it stopped as they said it did not seem needed anymore. Recently I contacted the school again and explained dd was struggling again and they are going to put counselling in place again.
Ds17 is in supported accommodation. But he still spends alot of time here and sleeps over sometimes. The violence and aggression has stopped. Him and dd do spend positive times together gaming for hours etc and they are fine.
Dd says things to me like is he home . I say yes . Then she will say . Whys he here. He needs to be in his own place I'm sick of him being here . When he's here I feel like I can't put my music on. ( she can) if I put mine on he puts his on. She's happy to spend hours gaming with him but then hates him. And it's like she thinks I have magic wound to make things exactly how she wants things to be.
She's very snappy and rude lately to . Which I have pulled her up about .
As much as I understand the situation with ds has had an impact on her I can't work out what's to do with that and what's teenage hormones.
I sadly don't have a magic wound and I can't name things perfect but they are much better.