For info, I come from a Polynesian household and in my household, our gen X parents and other relatives are rigidly conservative christians who all expect us millennials and gen z adults to follow the conventional life path.
Especially as women. One of those things is "start families"
Nobody asks wether you want to have kids or not, you just get knocked up and have children to raise them.
So when me and my husband expressed disinterest in having kids, without going into too much details, my father was indifferent but my mother pretty threw a fit just and she claims that my older sister who is 33 years old and lives by herself and has no kids and is unmarried brainwashed me.
I argued with her saying that she did not try to brain wash me, me and my husband made the decision together and we will not have children.
I don't understand why she is fussing. I have other siblings and they do have kids and they are also married so I thought she would let me slide. And I have two older brothers. One is 35, the other is 32 and strangely my mother never gave him shit and flipped out on him the way she flipped out on us.
Either way, wether she likes it or not, my husband and I are not having kids.
I got my own reasons of why I don't want to have kids.
Mothers get no breaks, I would have endless amounts of household chores, I wouldn't be able to be truly happy and fulfilled and I would have many other things to worry about. And overall, I am already not patient with other people's kids. On the very very rare times that I have to babysit my relatives kids because my mother would kinda force me to do so, I always couldn't wait to give those children back because they were mostly annoying. Overall I am not too fond of kids. I don't hate them but I am somewhat indifferent to them.
You see how most people are somewhat excited whenever they see a cute baby and they make silly faces or smile at random people's babies on the train or anywhere in public? I never did any of that. Even when somebody's baby states at me, I just glance at it and look away.
Other reasons why I don't want kids Is because they cost extra money 💸. Wether you like kids or not, you have to admit that they are cash registers.
Another reasons is that I don't want to have kids that ends up becoming addicted to ipads. I see too many cases of ipad kids. Even when the parents try to raise them properly, these kids want these electronic devices to watch coco melon on YouTube.
Another reasons is school. What's the point of having kids if you gonna drop them off to a location everyday so other adults that you barely know look after them. You don't know if these adults are trustworthy or unhinged or even worst, if they are attracted to your kids.
Overall, without kids, for the most part, I get to do whatever I want when I am off from work. I sleep in till whatever time I want and many other things.
How did your family react to you not wanting kids ?