The One Who Got Away

[FridgeJenga]

Ha! Sorry it sounds like a FRIENDS episode doesn't it 😅

Do you ever find yourself thinking what your life would be like now if you had stayed with TOWGA?

I'd be a damn sight richer, that's for sure!!!

Meant to add - mine is actually one who I sent away FFS!
Broke his heart by all accounts.

We are good friends now though (it is possible!) He lives in a different country and I am very happily married with the one who stole my heart.

@Hoglet70 Oooh! Do you still run in the same circles?

@FridgeJenga we don't live near each other but we're still 'friends' and text etc. He lives a very different life to me, he's changed a lot.

Unless you married someone you’ve been with since primary school, there will be relationship roads not taken, surely. If I’d married previous boyfriends, I’d either be living on a big family dairy farm or very, very rich (he patented something engineering-related in his early 20s) and made millions).

No regrets. Dairy farmer man was too one-dimensionally benign for me, and engineering man was so dull I got out of the bath to phone him and end things.

Dairy farming sounds interesting but a lot of commitment tbf.

I do wistfully go there sometimes... A song.. An accent... A place.. Been over 25 years!!

I only had 1 serious boyfriend before my husband. I wonder how he is sometimes but after we split he never seemed that keen to retain a friendship. We were best mates for a year before we dated and honestly its more I wish we had stayed friends than dated (he pushed for it and I adored spending time with him but wasn't ever particularly physically attracted to him). So I guess he's more the friend that got away! Really kind, funny guy - he made me laugh a lot.

But. He fell in lust with someone else 18 months in 😬, he said if he stayed with me it would be marriage and kids etc and it all felt really scary ( we were young so fair). He did call me years later when he was having therapy to apologise for how he treated me, we had a really lovely chat and then I never heard from him again. From fb it seems he had a lot of other 2 year plus relationships.

So yeah. The friend that got away!

I met my husband a year later and had the positive aspects of that relationship (laughter, things in common etc) but I also fancied the pants off him!

I don't think there's anyone from the past who I'd like to be with tbf, though I sometimes miss some friends

So I guess he's more the friend that got away!

I like that. I've got one of those too.

Gawd, I'd be miserable! He was (is, 40 years later) one of those people who are effortlessly 'cool'. I am not. I would have ended up hating myself, and always being on edge in case he saw through my attempts to be as on trend as him. I am so glad to have taken a different path, and wouldn't swap my rather uncool DH for the world. I see TOWGA on FaceBook - he's like ongoing entertainment at this point, but I have no regrets!