How do you brush off a bad day at work?

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Stop me seething and pondering, please!

Had a really challenging day/week/month at work. Today was rotten. Just as I was about to log off (two hours late) I got an email from a colleague, copying in loads of people.
Details not necessary but essentially throwing me under the bus.

it’s still driving me mad and I just wish I hadn’t seen it until the morning. I am really working on becoming less of a worrier, but really have a long way to go.

If you’re a master at brushing off a day day at work, what are your tips?

I’n in the office twice a week but today was WFH, so suppose I haven’t had that separation that a commute can help with. I thought about going for a walk but my worrying always accompanies me on walks!

Do something to make the break between work and home- go for a walk or do some exercise.

i seem to be able to do that on “normal” work days when things are going ok. But not when I really, really need to change my state of mind.

Food for thought! Thank you

Wine

Sing loudly in the car on the way home.

Hard physical exercise.

Wine.

Have you got any allies at work?

Following for exactly the same thing!

I had similarly yesterday. I found writing the problem out of system really soothing.

I find the whole work thing really frightening at times. When I have written this fear out, my compassionate voice can be heard and then onto ‘fuck’em’.

I just read something that says

”don’t be sad at weekends. Cry during business hours and get paid for it. Don’t let capitalism win”

😂 well why not!

• Think, "Will this matter in 100 years?"
• Remember, their behaviour is outside your control.. What is in your control is how you decide to handle it
• Shout 'you fuckers' very loudly
• Play your favourite music and dance non-stop for at least 10 mins
• Watch something that makes you laugh
• Do air punching

So firstly i wouldn’t have been online 2 hours after I finished. I log off and that’s the end of my day

the colleague throwing you under a bus, if you’ve made a mistake own it, if you haven’t craft a reply to explain and resolve

life is to short and precious to waste time overthinking work

sorry you’ve had a rough day

Gather all your empty glass bottles and jars. Ideally find an emptish bottle bank.Throw the bottles in pretending you are fling them at that colleague.

I can relate and sympathise. Some things that might help ( as others have also suggested)

Write down what happened and how you feel and why you feel this way. Articulating the 'problem' really helps.

Think about others times when you were anxious about something - tell yourself that you can handle this too. Tell yourself that you have a choice about whether to let this ruin your evening.

If the 'problem' needs action, decide how you will handle it and tell yourself that you are doing your best and that work does not need to define your life.

Nothing worse OP! Easier said than done but remember you are not being paid to worry out of hours. There is absolutely nothing you can do this evening, it’s a work issue and you are not at work.

Physical exercise helps, and I usually have a shower as soon as I finish work to separate the day and my evening.

If I was you now I’d order a takeaway, get a hot bath and take a sleeping tablet for bed if you have one!

Omg I need to read this over and over. It’s brilliant.

I used to get really stressed at work. In fact I talked with senior management about how we could improve our department's efficiency and they basically told me I was a trouble maker. Nice!

Since then I’ve worked on not caring. I’d leave, but I’d be cutting off my nose to spite my face as it suits my family life so I won’t.

I realised that the things I am getting frustrated about are not within my control. Only the managers can change it, and they don’t, so why should I care. I now do the job I’m paid to do, and do it well, but I’m not going above my pay grade and trying to Improve things. I work harder than most of my colleagues, it’s enough. I can’t change the company or my colleagues mindset. Save my energy for me and mine.

I find this hard too.

Look around at the rest of your life though and see how great it is. Make sure you’re not banking on work going well to have a happy life.

@AngsanaFlower
💯
totally agree , I could have written that this week .
I’ve pointed out repeatedly issues and easy fixes …
Took a deep breath on Monday and thought… you idiots at the top can crack on 🤷‍♀️

Im enjoying working flat out on
only my things at my pay grade 🙌
(And enjoying the 💩show 🙈🙄😆😆😆)

I’ve had an awful day, being the culmination of an awful couple of weeks.

I offloaded to a supportive colleague before leaving work. Now sitting at home with a “calm” scented candle - I’ve taken 2 paracetamol which I try to avoid but I needed to try to shift or deaden the headache.

As suggested, drawing a boundary between work and evening can help, such as a walk or even changing clothes to non-work clothes.

Tomorrow’s another day - it will probably still be difficult but I’ve got through today and I’ll get through tomorrow.

Dog. Logging off and going for a dog walk or playing with the dog is my tonic. They live so much in the presence and we could learn from them!

I have a couple of glasses of wine and bang my husband until the frustration has gone.

What do you do to him on a good day @ElsaLion ?

Cook him dinner 😁

Boxing bag loud music and release 😉

Bet he prays often for you to have had a bad day!!!

@40andlovelife Sometimes I pray for that too!

Sound advice. Face into the problem. Use your energy to confront the issue.