Omg I feel sick… help.

[20yearsago]

My ex from 20 years ago!!! Has just texted me a stream of photos of us from all those years ago and then a load of sexts.

I feel absolutely sick and mortified and so guilty. I’ve been married for 15 and I’ve never so much as spoken in a jokey way to another man about sex. I didn’t reply to him because I was in a meeting then came home and did some things with the kids. When I seen the stream of messages I blocked him straightaway.

Hes married with kids and what he was saying was so disrespectful to me and his wife. We live in the same area so bump into each other every few months say hello and walk on. I am so shocked and genuinely feel sick. Why would he do this??

Unblock and reply “this is offensive and unwanted. Any further contact will be reporter to the police” then screen shot, tell your husband and block.

Not his wife’s fault he cheated on OP.
Very likely his current wife didn’t know about her at the time.

He alone is responsible for his cheating !

I agree with @CreamLampshade

Don’t send anything! Block and move on.

He has got to be pissed or something. Not that it's any excuse.

Do not reply. In bet he tries to come snivelling in the morning.

I am not sure what law people seem to think he has broken?

Don’t respond or he will enjoy he’s got a reaction. What an odd thing to do.

I would do as others have suggested. Tell your husband and then report to the police. It’s very creepy.

You don’t need either feel guilty or bad for his wife. This is all his doing.

Are you sure they are actually from him if it’s so out of the blue? Could someone be out to cause trouble with his phone?

I do feel sorry for her I am fairly sure she had no idea about me, he was pretty much living a double life back then.

Yes, 100% has to be him. Put it this way he’s the only person that could describe our sexlife which he did in detail.

I think as pp said it has to be a midlife crisis, no other explanation for this odd perverted behaviour.

He did it because he's a pervert and an asshole.
Just keep him blocked for good. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
I agree in principle with the posters who are saying give the screenshots to his wife. However, since they live near you and you bump into them, this could make things very awkward for you if she decides to blame you for it and wants revenge. Him too, for that matter. Don't do it if you don't feel it would be safe.

No I don’t want any trouble, the chances are that she would come to my door or he would. Best left alone I think, I’ve blocked him on everything and don’t intend to ever even look the road he’s on.

on the advice given here I did unblock him, tell him it was unwanted and to stay away with zero contact. Then blocked him again ofcourse.

This is entirely his shit, nothing for you to feel guilty.
Now, do tell your DH. Because this piece of shit may say something to him and you do not want your husband feeling suspicious or jealous.

'This is extremely inappropriate. Please delete these and do not contact me again'

block

Who is this Lisa just above my post? Whatever is wrong with these bots!

Are you sure it's him sending them to you?

100% him, the details he gave it couldn’t have been anyone else.

Told DH earlier and he is fuming, he wants to go and have a word with him show his wife the messages. Tbh I actually don’t think she would do anything about it, she had a very comfortable life with him and it’s not the first time he’s been unfaithful to her (I personally count this as cheating)

I would want to know if it was my husband, I would tell her