Girl mum’s come and help me out.

[Shutthedoorjulie]

I’ve three girls, middle one is 11. The other two are easy going and pretty much just get on with life.

Middle one was very poorly when she was born and we did wrap her in cotton wool. We are very very close and she is like my shadow.

During Covid we moved her school so she entered new one in year 3 and she never found her people. She is also inclined to enjoy and be involved in a bit of drama. She is very tall and looks about 14 and looks awkward around her peers. She has absolutely hit puberty.

So big school started this September and she was excited for new beginnings. Found a great bunch of girls and all was well. That’s now imploded. Today she was in tears after school.

No one to talk to in school
sits by herself at lunch
hates school
hates her eyebrows
hates her skin
feels fat.
didn’t get picked for net ball teams.

I’m just looking for an app to severely limit her phone and app usage as I feel this is contributing to it.

She won’t join any groups but I’ve just signed her up for GG.

Ive been in bed with her cuddling and discussed how her behaviour can impact friendships and how to move forward.

Any great bits of advice ? 🍷

Oh that sounds hard.
But it's one day. Was it ok until this one day or has it been longer?

You say she never found real friends before. Might she have some sort of social skills deficit worth investigating?

So four and a bit years without proper friendships?

What happened at birth? Could it have had any ongoing impact?

Does she actually enjoy being involved in drama or does she just not understand social cues and normal behaviour or responses?

I think it’s the fall out from a few weeks ago when her friendship group split up, she’s not latched on to anyone else.

Her primary school teachers always said she was very mature and helpful - however I’ve read her messages and they are very blunt and and can be misconstrued. I think she tries too hard too 😬

She’s had friends but they drift away or she is on the edge of the group.

She was early and had RSV. She has two ‘old’ friends from play group and has absolutely no issues with them but because she had known them since around six months they are like family members - but we don’t see them often.

I do think she likes the drama and I do think she struggles with normal responses cues with newer friends