Feeling her pain, vicariously

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My DD (20 and in her 3rd year at uni) has just been dumped by lovely boyfriend who was just so good (too good?) for her. She is a mess and spiralling downwards and I feel completely cut-up about it. I don't feel angry towards him, I just feel terribly sad. Is this normal to feel a break-up vicariously?

Definitely.

It's horrible to see people you love in pain and hurting.

Absolutely depends on who you are personally and your own level of empathy.

My mother would have just told me to get over myself. Or asked what I did wrong. Probably both.

I understand you 💐
My son split with his girlfriend ,we knew it was coming but even so ...
She was lovely and i felt so sad for them both for a long time , i still think about her and hope life is treating her well.
He has been with current girl for almost 4 years she is lovely and better suited i think, i hope so much that they are right for each other , i am emotionally invested !
No one tells you about this part of parenting !

I've been here too. Vicarious pain is the worst!

Thanks everyone. We're going up to Manchester to see her and hopefully we will all feel better after the visit.