Get over job rejection….

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Hi all! I’ve been on back to back maternity leave and it’s time for me to return to my organisation in a few months. Its a huge organisation with loads of different teams and so I’ve been looking into other teams I could
go into, with my bosses approval as she is aware it’s time for a change as I’d been in the same role for a while!

I applied for a role which was my dream dream job. It’s in a team that I worked in (10y ago!) but that I’d love to return to in a more senior post. I guess I’d made the mistake of mentally imagining myself in the role etc.

Well this morning I received a rejection and I’ve been so so so upset. Does anyone have any tips on “getting over it”? Much of the team is still there from ten years ago so I’m imagining them looking at my application and laughing and then rejecting me. argh!

To add, I guess it’s knocked my confidence about returning. Ergh.

I’ve had a very similar situation this week. It’s really hard to take isn’t it? I had to go off for a secret cry because my DD is at home on hols.

Then I went for a run, and watched this about resilience which I always go back to when I need some help. I can recommend it:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NWH8N-BvhAw]]

The landscape at the moment with jobs is so tough from a candidate point of view. There are so few roles and so many candidates. It’s also really tough coming back from mat leave. The right thing will come up.

If you don’t want to click on the random link it’s the Lucy Hone ‘3 secrets of resilient people’ Ted Talk

Going for a run is a really really good idea (although I am not a runner but a swimmer!) so will go down to the pool later. Going to watch the link now!

I know I’m being dramatic but I can’t think of a more ideal role at the moment :-(

I know that feeling so well. Did you interview for it? Interviewing post mat leave is so difficult.

Nope. Rejected on Cv and cover letter alone!

In a nut shell, you probably won’t get over it but it will hurt less.

I remember interviewing for a job 26 years ago, I felt I was over qualified but didn’t get the job. It still irks me now, but I only remember or think about it when I read things like this.

Know your worth, hold you head high, think there is a reason for it, a better job is just around the corner. They don’t deserve you.

In my experience with internal roles is that they are earmarked for someone before they even open it to applications. 😕

Other opportunities will come up, OP. I don't believe in the concept of dream jobs, though.

Idk what sort of company it is, but at ours there are criteria and we score the applications against those. The highest scorers are interviewed. There's no laughing at anyone or anything like that, ever. Just objective scoring. Even if we worked with someone previously and thought they were fantastic, we will use the same scoring and they wouldn't get interviewed if others scored higher. So might be the same. I'm sure no one would laugh at your application.

Thank you for the link. That was interesting/informative.

OP, I feel your pain. Even when CV's are 'objectively' scored, I've been a part of enough sifts and panels to know that whilst candidates are not marked down, the preferred candidate can be marked up. Rarely is the preferred candidate the best candidate! Really makes a mockery of the process and is disrespectful to those who have spent time applying/preparing.

Some applications and interviews require a lot of time and emotional investment, then a knockback can feel terrible.

While nothing can make the feeling you have just go away try and get some feedback so there's something to take away from the experience.

I actually interviewed for my current role 18 months before I started working here and didn't get it. A company I wanted to work for in a line of work I wanted to become more established in. I was gutted I didn't get it. When another position became available further down the line they saw it as a positive I tried again.