Can I go into the consulting room with my DH?

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My husband has an appointment to see a consultant later this week about potentially being diagnosed with a long term condition. Is it ok for me to go into the appointment with him or would that be weird or annoy the consultant?

I go in with my wife. No reason I can think of that you shouldn't.

No problem going in. I see it all the time at my numerous hospital appointments.

I have taken DH to a couple of appointments with me when I thought 2 sets of ears would be helpful and from family and friends it seems to be a normal thing to do.
My consultant seemed fine with it anyway.

Thanks I am think it might be better to got in just to have two sets of ears in.

It's fine, I often have been with dh and noone queries it.

I always go in with DH. You need two people in the room as he might not take it all in. I would suggest taking a notebook and making notes and ask the consultant to write down anything you don’t understand.

As long as your husband is happy with it then it's fine.

If he wants you there, then yes. If he doesn't, then no. It's up to him. It can definitely help to have two pairs of ears as sometimes not everything registers with the patient.

As a pp says as long as your husband wants you to.

Yes of course he wants me there I wouldn’t be asking this if he didn’t.

The consultant will be used to it. In fact, when I was getting a diagnosis, the consultant even asked me if anyone was with me.

My husband came in with me at my last hospital appointment so he could remember what was said.

Definitely go in, the Dr will probably suggest you come in anyway.

Bring a notebook if you think you'll have a lot to remember. Ask questions, the consultant won't be annoyed.

Best of luck x

I always go in with DH. It’s fine. Sometimes you can think of other questions to ask and in my experience they have no issue dealing with NOK.

As long as your husband agrees.

TBH most men do go with their wives/partners to the point it looks odd when they don't. And the wives/partners always ask the most relevant questions and actually remember what is said.

Experience of 20 years of being a consultant.

Yes, perfectly normal to have a spouse with you.

At my husband's request I was at all his oncology appointments. He found being told he had cancer incredibly difficult and really struggled to remember what had actually been said. I wish you both lots of luck.

Yes, I've always taken someone into mine
It helps as he might not remember what has been discussed

Of course it's ok

Yes, as long as your DH is happy for you to go in.

I'm a 40 year old female but in the last year I've taken someone with me to a handful of appointments just for 2 sets of ears and also in case I forget to mention anything
No reason why this should be a problem.

Yes you can. I have been a couple of times with my husband. He asks the consultant if it is OK. The answer is always yes. As previously said four ears are better than two. Just don’t talk too much. It is his appointment.

Yes I’m quite mindful of this, I will only pipe up if there is something important my husband hasn’t mentioned.

@AnnaMagnani Thanks for this,very useful to hear from the horses mouth.

It’s absolutely fine as long as your dh is happy with it.