Making friends in your 40s - We3app?

[User3936493947]

I’m in my mid 40s and I’ve never been great at making friends. Too many bad experiences as a kid have put me off putting myself out there but I’m led to believe I’m engaging and empathetic. I have a lot of hobbies and interests but they can be quite solitary. I’m not sporty. I moved jobs about 2 years ago after a long time working at the same business and I have realised that all my friends were really just work friends. I don’t have friends of my own really. Tricky to break into friendship groups at the kids’ school when everyone seems already to be well-acquainted.

Has anyone tried we3app or similar? I’m a bit nervous tbh. A lot of “meet new friends” groups seem to be designed for people who are recently widowed/divorced or who want to meet romantic partners. That isn’t me at all. God this all sounds really sad and I promise I’m not like that!

Although you say you're not sporty, if you are active/ don't mind the outdoors then have a look for local women's walking groups (our local one does some short/ social walks and has a regular 5km walk at the local parkrun followed by coffee cake) also have a look for your local LoveHerWild group. I'm not a hugely social person but have made a nice group of acquaintances through these kids of groups in the last few years. Not pick the phone up in an emergency kind of friends but people I enjoy fun being around.

@User3936493947 I’m in the same position. Drifted over time with most friends and also had a few bad experiences. I’m not sporty either so it’s hard to find social hobby groups. Would like to make some friends who are at a similar stage in life ie 30s/40s with a young family. I didn’t know about this app but I really like the concept as I think there should be less pressure if you’re meeting in a group of 3. I’m near london so hopefully there is a decent pool of people to connect with. Wonder if anyone here has used this app?

Thanks both. Still feels really nerve wracking putting yourself out there, doesn’t it! I’ve met a couple of mums at school that seem like they’re less in established cliques but it’s always awkward asking if they’d like to go for coffee or whatever. I always feel like they’re bound to say no!

I’ve put my big girl pants on and messaged a mum that I got on well with at a party DD attended. Wish me luck 🙈