Interested to hear other people's thoughts on this. I suspect that ex dp has narcissistic personality disorder. He is highly manipulative, selfish, extremely insecure, entitled and feels no shame in crying or painting himself as a victim to get what he wants. He gaslights, lies, boasts, exaggerates, and the mental gymnastics he performs to get his own way are quite the thing to behold. We share dc so unfortunately he'll be in my life for a while.
I was offloading to a friend who said he sounds similar to someone who has borderline personality disorder, and if that is the case, then it's a disability that he can't help. It got me thinking, why is npd regarded as a bad, or evil personality trait, whereas borderline, bipolar, and schizophrenic disorders are disabilities where the person is considered sick. A person with npd will often harm those around them, but then so can someone suffering from other personality disorders. A narcissist (I think) doesn't choose to be manipulative or destructive, their brain is just wired that way and they genuinely don't see things the way others do.
A person with narcissistic personality disorder will often suffer depression, addictions, and is more at risk of suicide. It affects every aspect of their lives and often leads to relationship breakdowns. It must be an awful way to live, and my ex lives a very sad, lonely life of jumping from one supply to the next. I wonder if it's because narcissists don't often realise that they have npd or will refuse to accept it, whereas someone with bipolar will welcome a diagnosis as it can leaf to treatment?