9mo won't nap on time

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my 9mo just won't nap when he is supposed to he literally stays up 6 hours after waking up, then sleep for an hour or so, and after again 6 hours awake, what literally ruins our schedule 😭, sometimes he only falls asleep when is 2 am. don't know what can i do every time i try to put him for a nap 3 hours after he's been awake, he just rolls over trying to crawl, screams and cries, and even with me breastfeeding him, he has it for a bit but he's on the move again, and then it's me for 3 hours trying to get him to sleep

I wouldn’t expect a 9 month old to nap again just 3 hours after waking. Your nap expectations seem to be based on a much younger baby.

when he is supposed to

This is your problem. They aren’t supposed to all do the same thing, they are people just as adults are.

My youngest has just turned 10 months and wouldn’t be ready for sleep after 3 hours.

he was always like this until last week, always had an awakening window on 3 hours, probably changed and now needs more. but 6 hours with 2 naps a day, is to much as well

of course i know he's just a normal person like us, im just going by the fact, how it always has been. and a baby going to sleep at 2 am is not healthy at all, i work as well, and it's really hard to cope going to bed late, i just don't know how could i get the schedule better.

So confused by your post. If he has a wake window of 6 hours then surely he has a nap at lunchtime (12:30/1-2ish)then down for the night at 7/8pm. Where does the 2am come from ?

Surely he’s only going to “bed” at 2am because you’re putting him down for a really late nap?
Theres reason he needs to have 2 naps, just move him to 1 and see if it works

I'm confused by your post. Is it that he's napping later then not going down until 2am?

Look up 9m sleep regression 😩

They're all different op, there's no 'supposed to' about it. I once met a 14 month old who dropped all naps completely & forever!

I don’t understand, surely you just work backwards from when you want him to go to bed and how long he naps. For example- you want him to go to bed at 7, he has 1 hour nap. Wakes at 1pm so goes down roughly at midday.

Equally, work forwards from when he wakes and do it that way. Same outcome.

The only way I can see that his bedtime has become 2 am is if you’re letting him nap at say 6pm ish, then he’s up for another wake window.

I will say they are all so different though, there’s no ‘on time’ about it. They’ll do what they want, when they want.

For example, my eldest, dream napper. From about age 1 had 1 solid 2.5 hour nap a day, like clock work. Wanted to go down at 10.45 on the dot. Only problem was, had to be in his cot and wouldn’t sleep anywhere else but needed his nap desperately. Clung on to his nap until he was about 2.5.

My youngest, could sleep/nap anywhere, except he power napped for 15-40 mins completely erratically and decided against all naps other than if we were in the car by about 15 months.

going to bed later means waking up later as well

You need to stop being so rigid on wake windows and naps, your baby didn’t read the manual and doesn’t know he’s supposed to a schedule. I have a similar age baby and he’s on 1 nap a day, wakes at 7, naps at 12, down for the night at 7pm. If I tried to make him nap 3 hours after waking I’d get the same reaction as you.

I don’t get the 2am thing either, why is he only going to bed then? Are you trying to fit 2 naps in meaning he doesn’t nap until 6pm or something?

Can you explain his schedule? I'm confused. What time is he up, nap, lunch, dinner etc

So he is waking at 10am or later ? and you are aiming for a 11pm bedtime ? Fair enough his "lunchtime nap" will be 4pm-5pm.

But honsestly I'd wake a baby around 9/ 10 am especially if some one in the house is working office hours. Otherwise as you have found eventually they will become nocturnal.

My son does this if left to his own devices. He seems to naturally be a night owl, we are to so that might be why. A solution we’ve found is to wake him up early, let him nap when he wants (which tends to be midday if he’s woken up early enough), and then he will go to bed at a reasonable time. He’s 16 months old so only on the one nap most of the time. 9 months is typically a little young to only have one nap but if his wake windows are already 6 hours I don’t see how you’d fit a second nap in.

"Suppose to" "schedule" bahahahahahahaha 😂 from a mum of two with low sleep need.

Just roll with it OP.

So you think a baby looks at a clock and goes 'parents I need my nap now'

They sleep when they want

Obviously something has to change OP. It's absolute madness to spend 3 hours trying to get your baby to sleep when he doesn't want or need to. Are you trying to force him to sleep at home in a cot? Might you be better getting on with your day and letting him sleep on the go, in the fresh air?

Like PPs, I agree that no one can really give advice until you outline your daily schedule. What you've outlined doesn't really add up or make sense. When does he wake and what does your day look like? Because if he has a 6 hour wake window that means you're letting him nap at 8pm?

Mine is exactly the same- it's been a week. It's probably just a phase.

OK, so this weekends clock change will work in your favour - but you might need to bring food and milk times a little earlier if those are fairly fixed.

Then I'd startcwaking him in the mornings. Maybe bring it forward by half an hour a week, and try and get into a schedule that works for you and things like going to work.