Can’t get anyone to go on holiday with

[ColdAutumnalleaf]

…. well a short city break that is. Partner is busy and hectic with work and so many friends are changing jobs at the moment and can’t commit.
I know in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big problem but it’s getting me down.
Do I just go on my own?
What if I get there and still feel down etc?
It’s also getting me down that I feel I now look a bit desperate if I’m asking people and it doesn’t suit them 🥹
I know folks here will prob say go on own.
As above, also had to just get it off my chest that it’s getting me down and feel I’ve seemed desperate ☺️
Thanks for listening!

I always travel alone and prefer it. Where are you thinking of going ?

Don't spend your life waiting on others to be free - go! It's a city break, you'll be so busy you won't have time to feel sad etc. Also, why do you think being on your own is a reason to be sad? 'Cause that is a wee bit odd, might be something to reflect on privately.

I've been on some fantastic small group holidays on my own. You meet up with others once there.

I've also been on several hiking trips on my own. I think I prefer that to a city break alone, but definitely there are plenty of good options for solo travellers.

Of course I'm going to say go on your own.
Use AI to write you an itinerary or look on Atlas obscura for unusual things to do and go and have some fun!!
Life's too short to be waiting for people, why miss out!

Going on holiday alone is great!

I go away on my own at least once a year, not a big expensive extravagant one but it’s lovely having a few day’s myself

you do what you want when you want, sleep when you want eat what and when you want and no compromises at all or anyone else to please!

im not against holidaying with others either but I’d definitely not not go on holiday if I had noone to go with!

I'd definitely do a city break on my own! I just did a week's beach holiday by myself and it was bliss. Got up when I wanted, ate where and when I wanted. Chatted to others round the pool when I wanted and quietly read my kindle when I didn't. Came back really refreshed. Liberating not having to consider anyone else or compromise!!

I love going away on my own for short breaks, nobody to consider but me? Bliss.

I wouldn’t want to do a longer holiday alone (I know some people love it and that’s great, it just wouldn’t be my preference) but I’d do a weekend city break alone and enjoy it. For longer holidays I’d look at the small group holidays catering to people travelling alone.

Thanks so much- I think I will just need to do this alone rather than wait for others!
It’s cheered me up a bit already reading these replies.

It is nice to travel together with someone, because you get to share the experiences.

But it is also really nice to travel alone, because you get make all the decisions yourself! Destinations, places, activities, museums, restaurants, walking pace, etc.

At least try it! Bring a positive attitude. I think you will have a great time!

@ColdAutumnalleaf
I read your update now! Great to hear!
Happy travels!

Just go!
Life is far too short to await the stars to align.
I travel alone an awful lot, from city breaks to beach holidays. They're bliss.
I eat when I want, where I want with no one's input. If I want smelly seafood, I get smelly seafood. I don't have to consider other people's fitness or comfort when planning a day wandering around museums and galleries.
If you want to be a bit more social book a room in a hostel when a communal area (some hostels are under 30s only so double check), book a group activity the day you arrive or the very next day so you get straight into the routine of speaking to strangers. I've found cooking classes brilliant at this.
And go to a bar in a less touristy part of town, sit at the bar and be open to conversation, it's the best!

Where are you going OP?

I've just done two nights away on my own and enjoyed it so much. Did what I wanted, ate where and what I wanted, relaxed in peace in the lovely hotel. Went to a gig on my own which was a first but i loved it!

Lots of tour companies do Singles tours. I love the freedom and peace of going away on my own.

I had a lovely week on my own in London that I look back on with great fondness, easy to get last minute theatre tickets, ate when and where I wanted...lots of cups of tea and people watching.

Had to spend a week in Liverpool recently on my own for a hospital appointment...had a rather nice time!

I think refocusing on what you want to do rather than who can go might help. I make lists of things to see.

I am very fussy about who I'll go away with because I don't like having to accommodate another person! I love going away on my own. I just potter about doing my own thing. My DC have grown up to be the same. DD had a week in Greece alone near the end of the summer and sent me pictures every day, which was nice. She loved it.

I do go away with my DC but even then we'll sometimes have days where we go off and do our own thing and meet up later.

Every time I've gone away with someone else, it hasn't been as good. As I always have to factor in what they want to do and no two people are exactly the same! There's always some level of compromise.

I've been wanting to do the same for a while, I think it would be easy to keep entertained without feeling lonely during the day but in the evening I wouldn't want to goout for dinner or to bars alone. Just done a city break with a friend and our kids visiting attractions and that was great but want an adult trip. I don't have a load of friends and only 2 or 3 that I would want to spend more than a day with and those are the busy married ones who can't just leave their men for some reason or another. Maybe next year I'll just do it and if I end up in my hotel room of a night watching TV then so be it. Let us know if you go for it.

I went to Greece for a week in June in my own. I did t even think of asking anyone, my partner was facing a hard time and I needed to get away. Had a great time. City break will be even easier

I had early dinners in Greece and then went back to my room by about 9 had a shower and went to bed. I'm usually in bed by 10pm at home to so was no difference.

I have the kindle app on my phone. So when I go for dinner or whatever, I can just read a bit of my book if I’m not people watching!

Yeah good idea, I will get myself a kindle or some new books for Christmas, I do enjoy reading and staying in cosy in peace. My second DC is nearing high school age and my frist is a teen, they're both quite chill and not so demanding. I don't need the break really to get a rest, moreso to do things I don't do with them. Maybe one night in and the other dress up for dinner and go out looking for other unwilling loners. Booking on a singles trip is something I'd consider.

If I was in Greece I wouldn't mind going to bed early and up at the crack of dawn to soak up the sun or explore. I don't sleep much hardly ever have more than 5 hours unless I'm ill, been the same for along as I can remember. So most nights I'll read or scroll on here or elsewhere for hours or rearrange furniture. I need help of some sort I'm sure, possibly adhd medication. I'm always mentally tired but my body just isn't ready to sleep. I'm almost 38 and think people think I'm wanting an 18-30 type holiday/trip is what I want, I don't just a night out in a different city with a mature day time itinerary.

Solo travel is one of life's great luxuries.

Enjoy

Id encourage you to do a bit of research so have lots of options for things you could do. But, and this is the bliss of it, you can change your mind and do something at the drop of a hat. No one to even consult.

I'm an early bird so tend to have my main meal of the day at midday rather than in the evening. Up early is a bonus, as so many horribly crowded tourist attractions are blissfully empt earlier in the day.

One memorable morning I had niagra falls to myself (and a street sweeper ) after not being able to get near the front the previous evening.

Good bone conducting headphones mean I can be listening to whatever and still be alert to my surroundings.