My best friend of 20 years is currently ignoring me. I suspect because I couldn’t meet up with her for drinks last weekend as I ended up with a stomach bug. I suggested some alternative dates when I told her I couldn’t make it which she has read and ignored, I’ve since sent her a message with just general chit chat asking how she is/how her weeks going etc… which again have been ignored. We’re supposed to have plans tomorrow night with other friends (an event we booked months ago!) and she’s ignored all messages in our group chat about arrangements for that too so they’re obviously getting the silent treatment as well. I get she’s probably a bit pissed I had to cancel but I can’t help being ill. I love her to bits but this isn’t the first time she’s done this and to be honest I’m really getting sick of pettiness.
I’m not a perfect friend by any stretch of the imagination and admittedly life does get in the way at times and things have changed since the days we were teens and early twenties and used to go clubbing every weekend but I like to think I treat her with a lot more respect than I get from her, I’d certainly not give her (or anyone) the silent treatment. Part of me thinks that I should phone her and try and clear the air but equally part of me thinks at 30 I don’t want to deal with high school like drama every few months because that’s ridiculous.
I’m torn with what to do next so thought I’d post here for some words of wisdom!