Ideas to feel less lonely

[Soootired23]

I posted on AIBU about my situation and mumsnetters were actually quite helpful!

It also made me realise that my main problem is that I feel lonely.

TLDR: I've been working for home for the past 13 years. We live in a pretty isolated bit of Britain but can't move. I really dislike WFH but it's the only way to get a decent salary (because there are no decently paid local jobs).

I only have two local friends (who actually can't stand each other!) so I don't even have a group of friends.

So far I can only think of a hot desk situation.

I've posted on local groups but have never had much joy. I've been to classes too, and I DID meet my DH that way but never made any friends!

The best advice I ever got on this topic, was on MN. Get out as much as you can, go to every event/club that you can, smile, and chat to everyone (but not for too long)!

I find being around other people can bea lonely place , as close connections are quite hard to come by. You seem aware of this and are seeking a social community.

If you have a dog , take them everywhere you can. Dogs are a great social stepping stone.

Pub quizzes, wreath making or something like that

A part time job in the local pub/ corner shop would be ideal. Yes you already have a job but a few hours on a weekend might be possible or a few nights at the pub if they are short staffed. Volunteer work is another good option and will make you feel good about yourself. You have DC so that opens doors, get involved with their activity club or involved with parent committees at the school.

I tend to stay away from children related activities because of my own nature.
I seem very un.mother like to most people. So to avoid judgement I stay away from them.

Someone has just mentioned working in a pub, this is a great idea! Just a few hours per week could make a big difference

I have before and ended up getting tipsy!

Actually I think two years ago I went and worked from a pub every day of the week (with my dog) while DH and DC visited his mum. I had the best time of my life!

Could you take the initiative and set up a book club or something like that?

I have a mentoring group. It's all online but they're a nice bunch. (Which is also how I know online activities aren't the solution).

I could try offline. Maybe putting an ad in a coffee shop?

I could try offline. Maybe putting an ad in a coffee shop?

Yes, worth a shot!