What life transitions are you going through at the moment?

[ThatGreatNavyHedgehog]

Changing the way my home looks

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Moving. It feels huge because we chose this house so we could become foster carers, which we did and we loved it. Now I need to move and, although it's exciting it's scary too. DH won't be moving with me in person but his ashes will, I think I am ready to leave this house behind but I am not entirely sure.

DS left for uni the same weekend we learned my DSis has stage 4 cancer and has been put on end of life pathway. Everyone dies in October in our family so the timing is just triggering for all of us. So far she has avoided my other sister’s birthday but has a number of other anniversaries at the end of the month to pick. It is a rather dark standing joke in the family, it does sound heartless but I hate October. It’s also my review month for breast cancer, yearly mammograms, I’m currently waiting for the results of my year 3 follow up mammogram.

It has been an emotional time, the diagnosis of my sister was a shock and, being so advanced that no treatment was possible, means that we have had to deal with a lot of emotions in a very short space of time.

Worried about DS since I was diagnosed with breast cancer in September 2021 so went through treatment at this time of year and my DSis had a history of breast cancer. He’s having a great time at uni but we talked when he was home at the weekend and he admitted it was on his mind.

Add to that problems with both cars meaning I had to travel by train to spend time with my sister (4hrs by road or rail). One is now fixed but haven't been able to organise the repairs for the other one yet.

Good luck!!

A divorce
Final stages of an MSc
New relationship
Place of work closes next week (I've been there eight years)
Starting a new career

My dad died in July. Adapting to life without him is awful.

Perimenopause and starting HRT
DC2 being assessed for ADHD/ASC
Aging parents who now need help

Realising I need a whole new outlook on my own health and well-being and need to prioritise myself a bit. This shouldn’t feel like a transition, but it really, really does and I think that’s the problem in a nutshell! Need to work out who and what I am and need amidst all the caring and planning for others.

Sorry to hear of all those grieving 💐

I am in week three of a new job after ten years at my old place and have recently lost over 2.5 stone so feel like it's all a fresh new start. Turning 40 next year and feeling very content.

These stories are lovely - wishing you all well ❤️

And sorry also for those experiencing difficulties 💐

My adult dc died just over 2 weeks ago and we are in the middle of moving house.

I love these threads. They show how diverse our experiences of life are, and remind me to never make assumptions about people or what is happening for them at any point in time. It’s like peaking behind the curtain.

Realising I need a whole new outlook on my own health and well-being and need to prioritise myself a bit. This shouldn’t feel like a transition, but it really, really does and I think that’s the problem in a nutshell! Need to work out who and what I am and need amidst all the caring and planning for others. Amen to that! My DC are mid teens, but DH is looking towards retirement while I’ve just started full time work 🤷‍♀️. Life never really stands still, does it?

• Eating better and reframing healthy food as a treat/self care (not restrictive eating but making things from scratch rather than binging in ready meals)
• sitting down once a day to drink a coffee without doing something else at the same time
• home improvements (slowly, myself)

So very sorry for your loss

Imminent redundancy. Cannot fecking wait. After a couple of weeks off, hopefully a lower stress part time job and an MA,

Completing cancer treatment. Only 10 months to go! I will also be retiring next July, so will be transitioning to being a retiree who is actually able to get out and about to do things next summer - I hope.

Trying to stop being a people pleaser
Trying to stop letting someone control me. I don't know if they knowingly control me or they do it inadvertently. They seem to think I am at their beck n call/I am backup for when they find themselves home alone and need to fill a few hours/they can rely on me for most things/they expect me to do a hell of a lot for them as their friend. This is stopping. Unfortunately it means I wont be socialising as much. I'm not sure how I feel about that.

@WahWahWahs Realising I need a whole new outlook on my own health and well-being and need to prioritise myself a bit. This shouldn’t feel like a transition, but it really, really does and I think that’s the problem in a nutshell! Need to work out who and what I am and need amidst all the caring and planning for others.

could not relate more to this. I could have written this. I spend my whole time caring for/looking after/thinking of/planning for others. I am the bottom of the list.

Redundancy from a company I've worked at for nearly 30 years. Absolutely gutted.