How do I get ds4 to drink at school?

[elliejjtiny]

I'm at my wits end with this.

Ds4 is 11 and in year 7. He wets the bed so the continence nurse has had him on a drinking schedule since August where he has to drink 250mls every 90 minutes. I have an alarm on my tablet and I remind him.

In the summer holidays it was amazing and he was dry about twice a week and his pull up was wet but not leaking most of the other days. He was leaking through his pyjamas and bedding very occasionally but it was a massive improvement. At the weekend it's still great but I can't get him to drink much at school, or in the morning before school.

So he comes home thirsty, normally at around 4pm but 2 days a week it's more like 5pm. He's drinking a lot in the evening, although we don't let him drink after 7:30pm, and then his bed is soaked more often than not. I've written down for him when he needs to drink, both with times in and descriptions like break time, during breakfast club, after PE etc.

I've asked him why he won't drink at school and he says he's busy or doesn't have time. He has a medical pass which means he can leave a lesson to go to the toilet, have a drink or refill his water bottle. Although he forgot his pass on Friday because it was non uniform day (he keeps it in his blazer pocket and the teacher didn't let him go to the toilet. I'm wondering if he is worried about not being allowed to use the toilet and that's why he's not drinking.

He has learning disabilities, an ehcp and his class has a teaching assistant. He knows he can go to the SEN department of the wellbeing hub if he needs to refill his water bottle if the refill thing in the canteen has a queue.

In a similar situation here. What has helped id buying DS an Air Up bottle with several flavours he likes. I regretted waiting a year before I finally bit the bullet because it is so expensive but, I have to admit, it does the job. Slowly having more dry nights now as he wants to drink more water in the daytime.

I would be willing to bet he's still nervous about not being allowed to go to the toilet. Have all his teachers actually been abiding by it, or have some continued to give him a hard time?

Also, if the teacher knew he has a medical issue but didn't let him go because he forgot the physical pass, then he's a fool.

Thank you. I've looked at the air up bottles and they are so expensive and I would be worried it would get lost or stolen at school. Although to be honest if it fixes the problem then it's worth it. And if it works I would be saving a fortune on nappies.

Ds did tell the teacher that he had a pass, but had left it in his blazer pocket. The teacher probably sees loads of students saying that when they don't have a pass though. I think there should be a thing on class charts so the teacher can easily see at a glance who in their class have passes for various things and who is allowed to have their phone with them for medical reasons.