Waiting for an ambulance

[waitingandwaitinggg]

Dh is in severe agony, has been the last 3 hours. He has gallstones and we think it's an attack, he cannot function , being sick, tightening pain.
Have two babies to deal with whilst dh like this. I'm upstairs whilst dh is with the paramedics downstairs I'm looking after the babies. Wish I could be down there with him !! Never seen him in so much pain before, this is definitely the worst he's ever been.

Lordy I had this I went into 🏥 admitted twice with severe ones they didn't remove. Short after I practically crawled in then collapsed, one of the stones had moved causing Jaundice. They had to have me on morphine and I think it was antibiotics with no food for 3 days to be able to safely remove it but they did that time had 24 hours of obs after then home

What in incredibly unhelpful and tone deaf reply.

Oh no, how stressful for you both! I hope they take it out soon for him.

I had a similar episode with my gallbladder. Horrific pain, waited hours in a&e only to be told that apparently I went home so I was removed from their list. Ended up getting scanned and urgently referred for my gallbladder to be removed - took 2 weeks of waiting though but once I came round from the operation it was such a relief!

When I had two under two, DH was in and out of hospital with suspected UTIs, then appendicitis, appendectomy, and post-op infection which turned into sepsis. It was a barrel of laughs altogether.

Lower your standards; as long as the kids are fed and safe, you're fine. A bit too much screen time won't kill them.

Life is going to be hard for the next few days, I have 2 boys one 4 months and one is 19 months. Dh now on antibiotics and looks like they're considering surgery now 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Just do the basics, keep them fed, clothed and warm, the rest can wait.

Hopefully when DH is home and on the mend you might consider a formal complaint to the hospital for their shocking lack of care towards him during the first presentation at A+E. X

Do you know anyone who wants to borrow a toddler for a couple of days?

In all seriousness, just keep them in PJs all day if it's easier, use screens wherever you can, take the toddler somewhere they can run off as much energy as possible so you can take advantage of naps, and whatever food they eat is fine.

It's a few days, if they're a bit messy and eat nothing but crisps they'll have fun and survive perfectly well.

I was admitted under similar circumstances on a Sunday and discharged the following Friday so 5 and a half days total.

I agree with the above, if you know anyone that would like to play with a toddler or baby for a few hours let them go. In my experience of two family members in different areas one was in and out of hospital six or seven times before eventually getting an op, the other was admitted on first attack and operated on two days later!

Let's hope that now your husband has had antibiotic treatment commenced and they are hopefully going to operate he will make a full and swift recovery. Its going to need stressful the next few days so focus on just the essentials. Screen time is fine. As long as everyone is safe and fed you will be fine. Whatever you need to do to survive is totally fine

Yes it was awful we have no idea how it happened, he collapsed at home in DKA so they assumed type 1 diabetes but on investigation they found the necrotizing pancreatitis he was in hospital for four weeks they thought he would be there for much longer I can only assume it was down to his age being 16 and otherwise healthy

@AutumnLeaves24 @waitingandwaitinggg which Chinese dish so I can avoid it

@MirrorWills

youbtagged the wrong autumleaves, I think you wanted @AutumnLeaves1990

but coincidentally I have a friend who can't eat Chinese food if they use MSG.

I hope your DH is okay and your okay xx

How are things op ?

In what way? OP didn’t need to give real time updates, which take time and energy better used elsewhere, to actually focus on the situation and ensure the best outcome for all. It really isn’t needed IMO.

And you didn't have to be snarky about it. Having been in that situation, I did similar because it helped me stop panicking and think about what I needed to do.