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A bit disappointed tbh

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Chunkiestchunkever · 20/10/2024 16:45

Hi there…just need to rant…

So, my younger sister has been going “off the rails” for some time now, bringing back different men to my parents house, going out at night and coming back at 5am, going out with random strange men that she doesn’t know very well etc, and my parents are quite conservative and traditional when it comes to these things so they’re not happy with it at all but they’ve kind of given up because my sister is very headstrong and doesn’t listen to advice at all! She’s also still in college which is what makes us worry even more. However, I’ve always taken a different approach and try to advise her from a “kind older sister” point of view and I’ve noticed she (seems to) listen to me a bit now and then. I’m a bit miffed because whilst trying to advise her that she can confide in me about anything and that I won’t be judgmental, she basically revealed to me that our mum sometimes uses me as an “example” in terms of what to avoid…basically, I got pregnant before marriage etc but I did end up marrying the guy and we have two beautiful children and we’ve been happily married for over half a decade. This actually hurt me a bit because it makes me feel like my parents see me in some strange way…I don’t know what word to use? Like, I messed up in some way? But I don’t see how? I may not be rich but I’m content with what I have and I’m happy😊 now, I know my sister could just be trying to stir up stuff because she often goes head to head with our mum in arguments/fights but I think our dad has done this in the past too…and it’s annoying because my parents love their grandkids but why would my mum try to use me as an example?…I know I shouldn’t be getting worked up about it but it’s kind of annoyed me 😂😭

yeah feeling weird now…

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Kosenrufugirl · 20/10/2024 16:53

Please try not to let it go into your head. Your parents seem to be very traditional. They also trying their best for their kids, not an easy thing to do in this time and age. You will never get another Mum and Dad and we are fallible as human beings and as parents. Time to forget and move on in my opinion

Gcsunnyside23 · 20/10/2024 17:14

It could be your mum's just exasperated with it all and spouting anything to get through to your sister. Tbh I think she's twisting on purpose and trying to get in your head. If you're very upset you could speak to your mum and ask her in a calm way about it. Your sister sounds a nightmare

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