DH keeps judging me for everything, and I don't know where this nasty attitude is coming from.
- Makes digs at my weight and borderline body shames.
- Makes comments there is no order in the house and why the kids are either going to sleep a bit later, while doing nothing about it himself.
- Complains when the house is messy and why I am not doing anything about it, again while doing absolutely nothing about it himself.
- Complaints if food is late, while I cook 99.9% of the time.
- Makes digs at how much I eat, even though he eats more than me.
- Compares me to the women in my culture who unfortunately have been doormats to their husbands, and says this should be normal to me.
- Complaints I don't give him attention sexually, and that I used to be good. More of a taker than a giver. Struggling as I lack emotional attachment causes of how hes treating me.
- I used to pay for everything but in the last 2 years he has taken on the majority's payments and now rubs it in my face all the time that he pays for everything.
- Has good and bad days. One good day he's nice to me and makes me feel like he's doing everything for us and then on the bad days, makes me feel horrible.
10. Makes reference to the fact I wanted a big family and so I should be dealing with everything. To add further, make reference to my gender and how it's normal to me etc.
11. 0% consideration for anything I do.
12. Older DD is very close with him and because he spoils and likes to do fancy holidays etc, my DD now makes comments that I take DH card and use his money when in fact I pay for myself and use my own money. DH fails to correct her at every point, it's as if he gets a kick from it and how it makes me feel.
13. Makes me feel bad about sometimes being in the same room as him or accuses me of following him around, which is not true.
These are just some of the highlights of things that are deeply affecting me. He seems to be in some delusional world of his where he thinks majority men think and agree with him. Am I wrong ?
If he knew I was writing any of these things about him, he would make me feel bad about it and say that I've betrayed him or turn it and say "I would never do that to you or this family".
I am just interested in hearing what others make of this.