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Relaxed casual wedding

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hardtocare · 19/10/2024 17:21

Hi ladies,

I need help! DP and I agreed last night to get married. It was very grown up given we're both in our 40s, been together 8 years and own a house and 2 kids together. There was no big proposal or ring and I'm totally cool with that. I want the marriage, not the proposal or the wedding! However, he'd like a small do- about 40 people- and obviously it's up to him too. I can't stand being the centre of attention and don't even know where to start with planning a wedding. Can you share anything at all about having a really casual do, including what kind of venue, where to get a dress, how to make it about us and not everyone else? Basically anything you'd like to share.

Thank you so much

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IlooklikeNigella · 19/10/2024 17:28

Where do you live and what do you like to do? I live by the sea, it's a working class town with a great sense of community and there are always local events going on. We are both very into fitness. I remember one early morning going for a swim in the sea before yoga by the beach. It was unexpectedly sunny but on cold days we just wrapped up. I got chatting to the woman beside me and she told me she was getting married later that day. She looked so happy and relaxed and I thought that's the way to do it. There is a local public house & gardens; she was getting married there with immediate family with an afternoon tea served then photos in front of the house followed by a dinner in their favourite local restaurant.

I remember thinking that is the way to do it.

MaybeItsBecauseImALodoner · 19/10/2024 17:39

Sounds a lot like my wedding! Been with my partner for 10 years and we got married last summer.
Registry office £350
Pre booked Taxis to take guests from the registry office to the reception £60
Wedding dress (Ralph Lauren cream off the shoulder maxi dress, £100 Tkmaxx)
Shoes also Tkmaxx £25
Husbands suit and shoes £150 Next
My hair and makeup £150
2 Dc., Son wore a suit, daughter a dress.. All from Vinted £100
Table decorations. Invites all made myself from craft shops... lots of ideas on Pinterest £75
We had our reception at a bar/ restaurant.
£150 to have a section of the restaurant to ourselves all evening and £50 per head for a three course meal (we had 35 guests) By the time the we'd all finished eating the restaurant had a band on (they even sung as a song so we got a first dance) and everyone hung around drinking until the bar closed at midnight. It was a late afternoon wedding and the timing worked out perfectly.

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hardtocare · 19/10/2024 18:31

MaybeItsBecauseImALodoner · 19/10/2024 17:39

Sounds a lot like my wedding! Been with my partner for 10 years and we got married last summer.
Registry office £350
Pre booked Taxis to take guests from the registry office to the reception £60
Wedding dress (Ralph Lauren cream off the shoulder maxi dress, £100 Tkmaxx)
Shoes also Tkmaxx £25
Husbands suit and shoes £150 Next
My hair and makeup £150
2 Dc., Son wore a suit, daughter a dress.. All from Vinted £100
Table decorations. Invites all made myself from craft shops... lots of ideas on Pinterest £75
We had our reception at a bar/ restaurant.
£150 to have a section of the restaurant to ourselves all evening and £50 per head for a three course meal (we had 35 guests) By the time the we'd all finished eating the restaurant had a band on (they even sung as a song so we got a first dance) and everyone hung around drinking until the bar closed at midnight. It was a late afternoon wedding and the timing worked out perfectly.

This sounds absolutely perfect, thank you so much! Loads of good ideas in here. Really appreciate the share! ❤️

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hardtocare · 19/10/2024 18:32

IlooklikeNigella · 19/10/2024 17:28

Where do you live and what do you like to do? I live by the sea, it's a working class town with a great sense of community and there are always local events going on. We are both very into fitness. I remember one early morning going for a swim in the sea before yoga by the beach. It was unexpectedly sunny but on cold days we just wrapped up. I got chatting to the woman beside me and she told me she was getting married later that day. She looked so happy and relaxed and I thought that's the way to do it. There is a local public house & gardens; she was getting married there with immediate family with an afternoon tea served then photos in front of the house followed by a dinner in their favourite local restaurant.

I remember thinking that is the way to do it.

A very similar sounding town! Thanks so much for sharing x

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hardtocare · 19/10/2024 19:46

Apologies for the shameless post bedtime bump x

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