This year is 25 years since I graduated and there is a uni reunion on in November. To be honest I'm not fussed about going. There are a few people I stay in touch with and they with me and while I hope all my old classmates are ok I am not that interested in seeing them again. I make time for the people I have maintained a relationship with over the years and am happy with that.
My close friend is going and wants me to go, she also works with my ex boyfriend (he got a job at the uni she works at a couple of years ago) from that time who has apparently been saying to her that she has to get me to go and that he wants to see me. He is currently single and previously got in touch with me after his long term relationship ended, to see how I am. I am married and not interested in seeing him again. I have no ill will towards him but I'm just not that interested in going over the past.
My close friend is pleading with me to go, saying she'd feel better if I go as well. I don't want to let her down but honestly the thought of it all makes me cringe. Its in her home town while I'd have to travel and stay over night with her. I am perfectly happy with my life and myself so its not any sense of inferiority that puts me off its just that these people to my mind belong in the past, and it seems pointless to reconnect so superficially. To be fair I was well known back then for staying in and not going out a lot so I doubt people would be too surprised if I don't go.
Am I being a curmudgeon for not wanting to go?